(aka Compatibility Matching Profile Personality Test)
Section 1: Self-descriptions
1. Warm
2. Clever
3. Dominant
4. Ambitious
5. Outgoing
6. Agreeable
7. Modest
8. Submissive
9. Lazy
10. Introverted
11. Aloof
12. Quarrelsome
13. Cold
14. Gregarious
15. Arrogant
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1. Impulsive
2. Stable
3. Energetic
4. Spiritual
5. Adventuresome
6. Frugal
7. Predictable
8. Affectionate
9. Organized
10. Intelligent
11. Compassionate
12. Attractive
13. Loyal
14. Witty
15. Neat
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1. Content
2. Humorous
3. Efficient
4. Artistic
5. Perfectionist
6. Creative
7. Spontaneous
8. Sensitive
9. Under-Achiever
10. Uncomplicated
11. Generous
12. Intellectual
13. Moral
14. Disciplined
15. Adaptable
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1. Communicative
2. Honest
3. Sensual
4. Liberal
5. Charming
6. Patient
7. Reliable
8. Resilient
9. Optimistic
10. Conservative
11. Passionate
12. Reflective
13. Caring
14. Genuine
15. Open
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1. Self-aware
2. Competitive
3. Over-Achiever
4. Vivacious
5. Wise
6. Bossy
7. Leader
8. Irritable
9. Show-off
10. Independent
11. Kind
12. Calm
13. Courageous
14. Aggressive
15. Persistent
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1. Outspoken
2. Follower
3. Rational
4. Opinionated
5. Restless
6. Romantic
7. Selfish
8. Shy
9. Stubborn
10. Trusting
11. Jealous
12. Imagine that your friends had to choose the best FOUR descriptions of you from the items listed below. Click next to the four items that they would be most likely to pick:
Good listener
Modest
Respectful
Affectionate
Caring
Spontaneous
Physically Fit
Warm
Outgoing
Optimistic
Dependable
Romantic
Creative
Loyal
Spiritual
Kind
Ambitious
Articulate
Rational
Easy-Going
Generous
Happy
Quiet
Genuine
Intelligent
Hard Working
Thoughtful
Sweet
Passionate
Energetic
Funny
Perceptive
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Section 2: Personal Characteristics
1. I enjoy a good joke
2. I enjoy acquiring possessions
3. I enjoy work for work’s sake
4. I enjoy mingling with people on social occasions
5. I like reading everything I can about a subject
6. I am satisfied with my level of emotional development
7. I like to spend my spare time being physically active
8. I am able to express myself in unique ways (e.g., words, music, art)
9. My personal religious beliefs are important to me
10. I have a high desire for sexual activity
11. I like to play pranks on others
12. I strive to advance in my career
13. I take great pleasure in knowing I have done a good job, whether or not others recognize it
14. It is easy for me to engage in conversations with people I have just met
15. I tend to think “outside the box”
16. I view myself as well adjusted
17. I need to take time to “veg out”
18. I am a good artist
19. My faith affects my life
20. I greatly appreciate the physical beauty of the opposite sex
21. I often see humor in everyday life
22. It is important for me to be viewed by others as a successful person
23. I feel a bit guilty if I am not being productive
24. Being in settings where I will meet new people is an important part of my life
25. I ask questions in search of information
26. I think it is important to continually try to improve myself
27. I care a lot about the physical shape I am in
28. My mind does much better with facts and figures than with concepts
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1. I find that going to church is a good way to meet people who benefit my social and/or professional life
2. I like to look at people of the opposite sex
3. I can be offended by satire and sarcasm
4. I can accept the circumstances of my life as they are
5. It is important for me to take time to “smell the roses”
6. I generally prefer to spend my spare time alone or with people with whom I am close
7. I regularly read the paper and magazines
8. I prefer to live life rather than analyzing life
9. I take pleasure in working out
10. I need to spend time creating things to feel satisfied
11. My beliefs make me a better person
12. I have an ability to make others laugh
13. I need to win at whatever I am involved in
14. I work much better if people follow my lead
15. My emotions are generally stable
16. I am proud of my educational background
17. If I am not in control of a situation, it is better if I leave
18. My friends come to me when they are in difficult times because they know I can handle emotional crises
19. I am more comfortable being a follower than a leader
20. I get upset easily
21. People who are controlling irritate me
22. I think it is important to express my feelings whether they are positive or negative
23. I prefer not to be around people who have emotional swings
24. I tend to either like someone a lot or dislike him/her a lot
25. I like to be pampered
26. I generally feel better when I am around other people
27. When I get mad I tend to take it out on someone
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Section 3: About Your Feelings
1. Happy
2. Sad
3. Anxious
4. Confident
5. Hopeful
6. Fearful about the future
7. Angry
8. Calm
9. Fortunate
10. Out of control
11. Fulfilled
12. Depressed
13. Energetic
14. Tired
15. Successful
16. Unable to cope
17. Satisfied
18. Misunderstood
19. Safe
20. Plotted against
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Section 4: Important Qualities
1. My partner’s personal values
2. My partner’s energy level
3. My partner’s family background
4. My partner’s honesty
5. Enjoying the way I feel around my partner
6. My partner’s dependability
7. My partner’s intelligence
8. My partner’s sex appeal
9. My partner’s love of children
10. My partner’s beliefs
11. My partner’s fun-loving nature
12. My partner’s physical appearance
13. The chemistry between me and my partner
14. The security/safety I feel when with my partner
15. The similarities between me and my partner
16. The romantic attraction I feel for my partner
17. My partner’s personality
18. My partner’s kindness
19. Our sexual compatibility
20. My partner’s ability to communicate
21. My partner’s skill at resolving conflicts
22. My partner’s friendliness
23. My partner’s capacity for emotional intimacy
24. The friendship between me and my partner
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Section 5: Personal Beliefs
Which of the following religions do you affiliate yourself with?
Christian
Jewish
Muslim
Hindu
Buddhist
Sikh
Shinto
Other
Spiritual, but not affiliated with a religious group
Neither religious nor spiritual
Please indicate what religion(s) your matches should be affiliated with: (check all that apply)
Christian
Jewish
Muslim
Hindu
Buddhist
Sikh
Shinto
Other
Spiritual, but not affiliated with a religious group
Neither religious nor spiritual
No Preference
Do you want to select which religious denomination(s) your matches can be?
Yes
No
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Cont: denomination
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Section 6: About Your Personality (TRUE OR FALSE)
1. I enjoy many different types of recreational activities.
2. I always read ALL of the warning literature on side-effects before taking any medication.
3. I sometimes drive faster than the posted speed-limit.
4. If a store-clerk gave me too much change, I might keep it without telling them.
5. I generally want to come out ahead.
6. I frequently have to work to overcome my shyness.
7. I like some people just because they are popular with others.
8. I dislike some people.
9. I never worry about work-related issues.
10. I sometimes waste time when I should be working.
11. I would never lie, even if it wouldn’t hurt anyone.
12. I do not give as much to charity as I could afford to financially.
13. At times I have raised my voice in anger.
14. I don’t care what other people think about me.
15. I am sometimes tempted to make fun of people behind their backs.
16. There are times when I am envious of other people’s possessions.
17. My house is often cleaner when I have company coming over.
18. I sometimes wish that certain other people would fail.
19. I am always even-tempered.
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Section 7: Your Personal Interests
1. Animals
2. Antiques
3. Art
4. Astrology
5. Astronomy
6. Bicycling
7. Board Games
8. Bowling
9. Bridge
10. Camping
11. Cars
12. Chess
13. Church involvement
14. Collecting
15. Computers
16. Conversation
17. Cooking
18. Crafts/Hobbies
19. Dancing
20. Dining Out
21. Eating
22. Exercising
23. Extreme Sports
24. Family
25. Foreign Films
26. Friendship
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1. Gardening
2. Genealogy
3. Golfing
4. History
5. Horseback Riding
6. Hosting/Entertaining
7. Hunting/Fishing
8. Languages
9. Learning
10. Listening to Music
11. Live Music
12. Marathons
13. Martial Arts
14. Motor Sports
15. Movies
16. Musicals
17. Painting
18. Participating in sports
19. Parties
20. Pets
21. Philosophy
22. Photography
23. Piloting Small Aircraft
24. Playing Music
25. Politics
26. Reading
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1. Recreational Exercise
2. Religious Community
3. Religious Faith
4. Running
5. Science
6. Science Fiction
7. Sewing
8. Sharpshooting
9. Shopping
10. Snow Sports
11. Soap Operas
12. Softball
13. Solitude
14. Talk with Friends
15. Teaching/Coaching
16. Technology
17. Tennis
18. Theater
19. Traveling
20. Vegetarianism
21. Volunteering
22. Walking
23. Watching sports
24. Watching TV
25. Water Sports
26. Weightlifting
27. Wildlife Conservation
28. Wine
29. Woodworking
30. Writing
31. What are you most passionate about? (Please be brief. This answer will be shared with your matches.)
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Section 8: Living Skills
1. Achieving personal goals
2. Maintaining a network of close friends
3. Using humor to make friends laugh
4. Making improvements and repairs around the house
5. Volunteering my time to causes I care about
6. Maintaining an organized life
7. Managing my finances
8. Entertaining in my home
9. Raising and/or caring for children
10. Leading a community service group
11. Creating romance in a relationship
12. Socializing
13. Negotiating business or financial matters
14. Creating a peaceful, beautiful home environment
15. Sharing my beliefs through teaching, participation, and example
16. Keeping physically fit
17. Remaining calm yet resilient during a crisis
18. Communicating my innermost thoughts and feelings
19. Helping those who are less fortunate or in need
20. Resolving conflict
21. Finding new adventures and unique experiences
22. Continuing to expand my knowledge and awareness
23. Long-term personal planning
24. Understanding local, national, and world events
25. Finding pleasure and contentment in simple things
26. Making art and culture an ongoing part of my life
27. Finding and taking on challenging activities
28. Finding creative solutions to everyday problems
29. Making new friends
30. Cooking for my family and friends
31. Earning income to provide for my family
32. Car maintenance and repair
33. Coordinating household schedules
34. Being a good friend and companion
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Section 8: Living Skills (cont’d)
From the list of life skills below, please choose the three that you do best. Remember to consider these skills as they relate to your entire life, and not necessarily just your work or career activities.
Achieving personal goals
Maintaining a network of close friends
Using humor to make friends laugh
Making improvements and repairs around the house
Volunteering my time to causes I care about Maintaining an organized life
Managing my finances
Entertaining in my home
Raising and/or caring for children
Leading a community service group
Creating romance in a relationship
Socializing
Negotiating business or financial matters Creating a peaceful, beautiful home environment
Sharing my beliefs through teaching, participation, and example
Keeping physically fit
Remaining calm yet resilient during a crisis Communicating my innermost thoughts and feelings
Helping those who are less fortunate or in need Resolving conflict
Finding new adventures and unique experiences Continuing to expand my knowledge and awareness
Long-term personal planning Understanding local, national, and world events
Finding pleasure and contentment in simple things Making art and culture an ongoing part of my life
Finding and taking on challenging activities Finding creative solutions to everyday problems
Making new friends
Cooking for my family and friends
Earning income to provide for my family
Car maintenance and repair
Coordinating household schedules
Being a good friend and companion
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Section 9: Communication Style
Please rate how important to you each of the following factors is when you are involved in a conflict or argument with a friend, co-worker or family member.
1. I try to make sure that my position prevails (that I win)
2. I try to make sure that I am understood
3. I try to accommodate the other person’s position
4. I try to understand the other person
5. I try to be respectful of all opinions different from my own
6. I try to resolve the conflict quickly
7. I try to avoid disagreement
8. I am passionate/intense about my position
9. I try to drop an issue once it is resolved
10. I try to resolve the conflict well
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Section 10: Relationship Style
When you think about what you want in a relationship, how important are the following items?
1. Being able to easily talk about personal problems with my partner
2. Knowing as much as possible about my partner’s past
3. Being able to tell my partner everything about myself
4. Being able to discuss with my partner how I am feeling towards him/her
5. Having my partner be open with me about how he/she feels toward me
6. Being available to my partner when he/she is having problems
7. Being able to count on my partner for emotional support
8. Enjoying physical closeness with my partner
9. Being able to keep my space
10. Being able to work out my problems on my own
11. Being able to spend as much time as possible with my partner
12. Doing special things to let my partner know how important he/she is to me
13. Being able to make compromises
14. Showing my partner that his/her needs are as important to me as my own
15. Being kind to each other
16. Being able to let my partner know when I am angry with him/her
17. Knowing that my spouse is usually to blame when things go wrong
18. Feeling that my spouse can do little wrong
19. Having similar ideas on parenting
20. Having similar educational backgrounds
21. Having similar belief systems
22. What are the THREE things for which YOU are the MOST thankful? (Please limit each answer to 20 words or less. These answers will be shared with your matches.)
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Section 11: Most and Least Like You
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Section 11: Most and Least Like You (cont’d)
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Section 12: Family Relationships
Please use the scale below to tell us how well each of the following describes your relationship with your parents (or guardians) when you were growing up. If your parents were not both equally present, please focus on the parent with whom you felt the closest and most involved.
1. Conflicted
2. Supportive
3. Abusive
4. Tender
5. Uninvolved
6. Over Involved
Using the same scale, how well do the following describe your relationship with your parents now? (If deceased describe your relationship when they were alive. Please focus on the parent with whom you feel the closest and most involved.)
7. Friendly
8. Distant
9. Angry
10. Abusive
11. Tender
12. Supportive
13. Conflicted
14. Nurturing
15. Regretful
16. Tolerant
17. Uninvolved
18. Over Involved
19. Other than your parents, who has been the most influential person in your life and why? (Please be brief. This answer will be shared with your matches.)
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Section 13: General Information
1. Are you male or female?
Male
Female
2. Please enter your birthdate: mm/dd/yyyy
3. What is your current marital status?
Never
Divorced
Separated
Widowed
4. How many times have you been married?
5. How many children do you have who are 18 years old or younger and living full time in your home?
6. Aside from any children you or a new partner may already have, would you like to start a new family by having or adopting a baby?
Yes, I definitely want to have or adopt a baby.
Maybe, I haven’t decided yet.
No, I can’t or don’t want to become a new parent.
7. Would you be willing to accept a partner who has children 18 years old or younger living full time in their home?
Yes
No
8. Choose the category that best describes your highest level of education.
Doctorate
Masters
Bachelors
Associates
Some college
High School
Did not complete High School
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Section 13: General Information (cont’d)
Please answer the following questions as completely and honestly as possible.
1. What is your personal income?
$0
Less than $20,000
$20,000 to $40,000
$40,000 to $60,000
$60,000 to $125,000
$125,000 to $250,000
More than $250,000
2. Describe what you do for career or occupation:
(Please limit your answers to twenty words or less.)
3. Please enter your height in
ft. in.
– OR –
cm
4. What is your ethnicity?
White, non-Hispanic
Hispanic or Latino
African-American
Asian/Pacific Islander
Korean
Japanese
Chinese
Indian
Arab
Native American
Other
5. What ethnicities would you be willing to accept as matches?
(Check all that apply.)
White, non-Hispanic
Hispanic or Latino
African-American
Asian/Pacific Islander
Korean
Japanese
Chinese
Indian
Arab
Native American
Other
Rate the following words as to how each one describes your physical appearance. Use the following rating scale for each item.
1. Well Groomed
2. Handsome
3. Athletic
4. Overweight
5. Ordinary
6. Fit
7. Sexy
Use the scale below to answer the following questions:
1. How satisfied are you with your physical appearance?
2. How important is it that your partner be physically attractive?
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Section 13: General Information (cont’d)
Please answer the following questions as completely and honestly as possible.
1. How much do you smoke?
Never
Rarely (a few times a year)
Occasionally (about once a week)
Regularly (several times a week)
Heavily (many times a day)
2. Please indicate the most that you would accept your ideal match to smoke.
Never
Rarely (a few times a year)
Occasionally (about once a week)
Regularly (several times a week)
Heavily (many times a day)
3. How much do you drink?
Never
Rarely (a few times a year)
Occasionally (about once a week)
Regularly (several times a week)
Heavily (many times a day)
4. Please indicate the most that you would accept your ideal match to drink.
Never
Rarely (a few times a year)
Occasionally (about once a week)
Regularly (several times a week)
Heavily (many times a day)
5. Are you ready to receive matches from eHarmony?
Yes, please provide me with eHarmony matches.
No, please do not send me any matches until I am ready.
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