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“Does life look good to you right now? Describe your current emotional health.”

Posted by eharmonyblog on 06 July 2008 under Replying to matches · Comments (1)

This is the oddest question in the list of canned 2nd questions because unless he or she is a LICENSED psychologist or counselor, your match has no qualifications to answer the question. In other words, over 99% of the time, the answer is crap! (The American Psychology Association only has 145,000 members in the USA.)

Here’s how people all over the web answered this:

Life is great … I wake up each day thanking God that I’m given another day. –lulucantero

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  • SingleGuyInNC wrote

    It seems to be a "kiss of death" question to ask, as in, why are you asking me this and what makes you think that I may be emotionally unstable based on the little communication we have had thus far? I suppose there may be a handful of people that may doubt themselves and not answer positively an …

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eHarmony changes the communication process?

Posted by SingleGuyInNC on 15 April 2008 under Replying to matches § Site changes · Comments (3)

Is it just me/my imagination or has eHarmony changed the communication process on us?

I initiated communication with a match yesterday and normally it goes like this:

  1. I ask my first questions (I initiate)
  2. They answer and send me their questions for me to answer
  3. I answer their questions and wait for their MHCS
  4. I read their MHCS, send mine and can immediately send my 2nd questions for them to answer

(This assumes that they get my MHCS, read them, if they like them, they have my 2nd questions to answer, if not, they close)

Well, this time, after she sent me her MHCS, I read them and sent her mine but communication is now “blocked”: I’m not allowed to send 2nd questions.

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  • Mateo wrote

    Mateo wrote: After reporting Technical problems that I kept having with the website customer care would reply with automated generic email responses that had NOTHING to do with the problems I was experiencing. eharmony made no effort to contact me and address the problems or attempt to fix them or …

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“Describe your own personal style”

Posted by eharmonyblog on 14 December 2007 under Replying to matches · Comments (2)

People are asking what personal style means. I bet they are guys. :)

Personal Style commonly refers to “fashion sense.” Thus “Describe your personal style” is identical to the 1st canned question, “What style of dress do you prefer?”

Now if you need help answering THAT question (and I know guys like you, so don’t worry), then go to your closet now, piece of paper in hand, and write down a description of your current set of wardrobe (i.e., the clothes inside the closet).

Now if you don’t HAVE a closet (you wear whatever is clean, yes, I know guys like you, too.) then I suggest this answer:

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“What do you most like to do on a day off?”

Posted by eharmonyblog on 26 November 2007 under Replying to matches · Comments (0)

When your match sends you this canned question, either your match hasn’t read, or your match wants you to rephrase, your answer to “How do you typically spend your leisure time?”.

 

“In general, how many nights a week do you go out for entertainment? What sorts of things do you like to do when you go out on the town?”

Posted by eharmonyblog on 23 November 2007 under Replying to matches · Comments (0)

When your match sends you this canned question, either your match hasn’t read, or your match wants you to rephrase, your “evening” answer to “How do you typically spend your leisure time?”.

 

“What do you think are the three best traits you have to offer a partner?”

Posted by eharmonyblog on 20 November 2007 under Replying to matches · Comments (2)

Many canned questions ask you to sell yourself to your match — this question is almost the worst of them all. If you give a straight answer, you shoot yourself in the foot in twice:

  • You’re offering your “services” to a total stranger.
  • You’re seeking approval.

instead of presenting yourself as someone of value and worthy of pursuit. It’s a turn-off. Ask yourself: Are you desparate?

Don’t explain why you are a prize, instead, be a prize.

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  • BR wrote

    Deep down I knew that this eharmony question didn't sit well with me. Lesson learned: trust your instincts and don't answer idiotic questions from total strangers. …

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