eHarmony Blog.comTip: On the “My Matches” page, hover your mouse over the blue i near the match’s name and there is a popup showing critical information: match creation date, last communication date, height and age.
eHarmony Feature Request: Take off height and replace it with “last reply date.”
I like the idea of addition, but not subtraction… Height is important to some people and there’s no harm is displaying it. Wouldn’t you want to know about both personality and physical characteristics of a match which matter to you? Add more info and PLEASE tell us the last time they were on…
SincerlyEthical,
Sure, leave the Height if they also require women to put in their Body Type and Weight.
Like you suggest, the more information the better, right?
Hi Scott,
I understand it might be a slippery slope, but I feel it is important to not waste time pursuing various matches you may ultimately not be physically attracted to. The questionnaire alone can only predict friendship.
Although it is everyone’s hope that inner attractiveness and compatibility could always overcome the more superficial aspects, such is not always the case. It is naive to think that physical characteristics won’t impact chemistry. Plus, matches don’t do each other any favors by pretending this is the case. On the contrary; it is more respectful to be honest with yourself and your match, rather than to not waste your match’s time or your own. You might both make better use of your time by pursuing another match… and very often, timing is everything.
I think it would be fine to include body type. Although I see nothing wrong with including it as part of the matching system, it does not necessarily need to be….It could be for information purposes only. Weight is probably going a bit too far, and sincerity would be unlikely. Plus, weight can be somewhat surmised by the combination of height and body type.
But all of this is irrelevant if your match is not able to communicate with you, or not even aware of your existence; possibly because they signed up during a free communication weekend with no intention of taking it seriously.
Available time is obviously at a premium for most people these days, so wasted time is more frustrating than ever. Since eHarmony refuses to tell us which of our matches are sincerely active and which are not, we should either look for another site that will, or make more demands until eHarmony does. This is a matter of integrity, and sadly, few businesses (online or offline) operate with sufficient integrity anymore.
Elsewhere, I have found that “body type” isn’t a good indicator. I’ve seen some folks say that they are “about average” where by my book they are slender/athletic – i.e. they ranked themselves lower than they really are. It also goes the other way.
Weight is not worth recording. You have to factor in height and who cares what a match weighs if you find them attractive.
“Body type” is used on other services but you should be able to get that from a photo. Oh yeah. There are still people that don’t post a photo. 
The photo is really the next best determinant for that but only gives you a rough idea of what you are working with. I say that because I’ve met folks who photograph well (i.e. not as attractive in person) and those who photograph poorly (okay in photos but very attractive in person).
As for making demands of eHarmony and voting with your feet, good luck. I have been with them on and off for three years with no significant results from the service and am pursuing other avenues. Eventually eHarmony may change due to customer requests but they are very slow to adapt. Look at the archives of this blog and see when we requested stuff and how long it took for them to implement it.
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