“I think our age difference is too great.”

Right Hand of God has this to say to people who closed him because of age:

It’s ok. As soon as I got rich, I probably would’ve traded you in for a newer model anyways.

If some “Close Match” reasons prove the sender has lost his or her mind, this “Close Match” reason proves the sender is clueless.

  • eH lets you limit the age range of your matches in your Match Settings page.
  • People who have just taken the test (and thus have not even seen their Match Settings screen) get the initial age range based on a “complex mathematical algorithm” by eH. For example, a 31-year-old woman’s initial/recommended range is 28 to 41.
  • Thus 40-year-old men are occasionally closed out by younger women because likely these women have not changed their setting.
  • It was a failed match before it began. Thanks eHarmony!

eHarmony, can you please TEACH those people who pick this reason how to change their Match Settings? An informative screen would be nice: “It looks like you’re writing a ‘close match’ letter. Did you know that you can change the age range of your matches?”

Another thing eHarmony can do is add this question to the long questionnaire.

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Comments 4

  1. Sandra Maxedon wrote:

    I hate being closed out by age by men who are older or as old as I am. My chronological year assignment has absolutely no relationship to the kind of person that I am, how I look, what I like to do, read, listen to, where I like to go, or what I like to learn.

    The only thing this reason does for me is add to my disgust over the superficiality of the situation.

    Posted 10 Aug 2006 at 8:40 am
  2. Dave wrote:

    Age difference is one of the lamest closures you can get. I can understand if we get matched and you don’t like my picture or what I have to say in my profile, or my answers. But, age and distance are two of the variables users have the most control over.

    Posted 12 Jan 2007 at 7:52 am
  3. Susan wrote:

    I use this when I discover that the men are ten years older than they claim to be.
    One man gave his age as 48, and, after I had spent some time communicating with him and got his name, did some research and found he was 58. I guess he is maybe a bit clueless as to all of the online databases out there for such research! (And one of his photos definitely looked older, but
    I had been giving him the benefit of the doubt.)
    These people are putting their birthdates in as ten years more recent than they are, and posting out-of-date photos–but they have been in the minority and it does seem to be much less common (from my two months’ experience) on this site than on other dating sites.

    When I signed up, at age 42, the default age of men that they matched me with was 38 to 56.

    Posted 27 Feb 2007 at 11:00 pm
  4. CJ wrote:

    I have used this reason a number of times.
    I am at the low end of the age spectrum and because eHarmony doesn’t allow you to have a range of less than 6 years and I am not really interested in someone much older than me I use “I think our age difference is too great” to close those matches.
    If I was able to set the age range *I* wanted I wouldn’t have to use that reason.

    Posted 08 Apr 2008 at 12:04 pm

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