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She’s blind and she joined eHarmony

Kate PavlackaKate Pavlacka, a graduate of the State University College at Oneonta, has been totally blind for 11 years. (The photo is from when she was 19.) Published in The Daily Star, of Oneonta, New York, she writes:

… It didn’t take long before I jumped right in, paying the subscription fee to use the full features of eHarmony.

… With persistence, I did end up finding and conversing with some really interesting people. It was not only fun, but captivating.

I never said anything right away about my blindness to anyone, though.

At one point I uploaded a new profile picture to the website. It was one that a friend of mine said looked particularly nice.

The only problem, which I didn’t realize until a week later, was that the photo showed me with cane in hand.

I had thought it pretty peculiar that all communications with people promptly stopped right after I uploaded that new photo. I was totally clueless, wondering what the deal was. …

Read the rest of her story, dated 22 March 2008

She held the American record in the 400-meter freestyle for visually impared swimmers in 2000 and competed in the 2000 Paralympic Games in Sydney.

Is this the same as lying in your profile and answers? What do you think?

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Comments 3

  1. SingleGuyInNC wrote:

    I think I’ve been matched with two people with disabilities and they were both up front about it, mentioning it in their profiles. We weren’t a good fit for other reasons, so I didn’t get the opportunity to pursue things further with them.

    I personally think that being upfront is best instead of stringing someone along and then popping it on them only to find that it is important to them and ends up being a deal-breaker and in the end you both get somewhat emotionally attached and hurt from finding it out. The ones that are truly interested in you for all of your uniqueness will be so, no matter what and it’s better to be let down “easy” early on in communication than to have constant disappointment but that’s from someone without a disability (although I’d say that other aspects of who I am earn me a similar regular stream of rejection with matches that at least, on the surface “could have been”).

    I wish Kate the best of luck in finding someone truly special.

    Posted 25 Mar 2008 at 1:11 pm
  2. Anonymous wrote:

    Karen

    Posted 26 Mar 2008 at 1:48 pm
  3. Uncle Fester wrote:

    It’s fairly easy to spot when a match is hiding something. So – please – don’t. Nothing good can come of it.

    A recent eH date was mum on personal detail during OC and email, but I discovered on my own that she had some important “issues” that a date should surely know up front. Our first meeting was dominated by her telling of her story – without my asking or confirming that I already knew it, may I add. If I hadn’t already discovered the info, I would have walked out with no apology. But it was clear that I was being used as a “recovery date”, so I humored her. And followed up with a polite email, leaving things open and again not revealing what I knew. She never replied. Yet another eH woman who’s damaged beyond help.

    Don’t hide important personal info. It will always hurt in the end.

    Posted 30 Mar 2008 at 11:06 am

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