Comments on: Poll 18 (Mar 08): Are eHarmony members ready for a relationship?

By: eHarmony Blog

eHarmony Blog — Sat, 12 Apr 2008 22:02:36 +0000

Are you saying you found TEN ladies who prefer FastTrack and got to know all ten of them and was able to ascertain that 9 of these 10 are lunatics? Please confirm.

Regarding your topic, see “Any profiling on ‘fasttrackers’ that might be useful?”.

By: G.R.

G.R. — Fri, 11 Apr 2008 13:31:00 +0000

OK Here is a mini poll type question… I have noticed that the women who prefer “Fast Track” are usually major players and total wackos. From my experience, I would say that 9 out of 10 are this way. Any other comments? Anyone else have the same experience?

By: G.R.

G.R. — Fri, 11 Apr 2008 13:11:54 +0000

Kreibly,

You missed the point of what I was saying…YES, a woman, as well as a man, is entitled to meet as many as he/she desires to meet whatever criteria he/she has for a partner. My question is when does one reach the point of saying “OK he/she meets 9 of the 10 things I am looking for and is truly a great person..I will date him/her.” Serial daters NEVER reach that point because something is wrong with EVERYONE they meet and they are in constant search of the “perfect mate” or perfect person who does not exist. Do you know any perfect people without flaw?

By: AthenaPallas

AthenaPallas — Sun, 06 Apr 2008 22:51:03 +0000

GR, I am a woman who is also looking for a family and possibly kids but I think that the experience described by you was outrageus. this woman must be very stupid not to know that things just do not work this way.

on the other hand, I have a similar impression about men who use on-line dating sites. I think that most of them turn into serial daters for exactly the same reason – why settle before I meet several thousands of women, they think, I can still marry when I am 80 ?

I have a few male friends who have been on match.com and eH for at least five years, and looks like they will be stuck there forever.

By: kriebly

kriebly — Wed, 02 Apr 2008 01:52:38 +0000

Hi G.R.,

Regarding this:

Many are looking for: “the perfect mate on the first date” or they meet a really great guy with potential, but think that the other 25 guys wanting to meet might be better..and therefore never commit to anyone and become a serial dater.

I don’t have a problem with this. I think a woman is entitled meet 25 other men if she wants to make an informed decision about who to start dating. I have heard it said “A man should date 10 women before marrying, a woman 110 men.” Of course, nothing obligates the guy to wait around…

Regarding your online encounter with the woman who wanted sex upfront… yeah, I really hate it when that happens…

By: Uncle Fester

Uncle Fester — Sun, 30 Mar 2008 16:30:00 +0000

Since my paid membership ended almost a year ago, they have continued to give me over 200 matches. There’s no longer a “match limit” for inactive members. I went on a handful of “eH dates” during my paid time, and a few more since then as a result of the free weekends. Every woman I’ve met through eHarmony reinforces my conviction that women who join eHarmony are in love with the idea of “having a relationship” but are too terrified to actually do it, or to even consider it when a possibility arises. Some want email buddies, some just want to browse and click.

By: Looking for love

Looking for love — Tue, 25 Mar 2008 20:37:05 +0000

[eharmony] Same problem here. Too much advertising and not enough upgrading of technology!

By: Bill K

Bill K — Tue, 25 Mar 2008 20:29:48 +0000

[eharmony] How can i log in to get my matches? about 25% of the time the servers are too busy and will not allow me to sign in. I sent an email to eHarmony to see what was going on and they changed my password. They don't even read the messages i send them and no matter how good they may be at matching, I will no longer pay for a service with a customer service and troubleshooting systems than can not keep up with their customers! MY WARNINGS TO ANYONE CONSIDERING PAYING FOR A SUBSCRIPTION!

By: G.R.

G.R. — Thu, 20 Mar 2008 16:06:04 +0000

I find it interesting that the top answers to the polls all have to do with negative feelings regarding if your matches are ready for a relationship. I have found this to be very true. Many are looking for: “the perfect mate on the first date” or they meet a really great guy with potential, but think that the other 25 guys wanting to meet might be better..and therefore never commit to anyone and become a serial dater. One match, whom I met, offered sex before meeting because she has to “make sure I am going to be good in bed” The same woman was so eager to have kids and start a marriage that she wanted to know EVERYTHING upfront, EG: finances, good in bed part, DNA profile, etc… Needless to say..I ran…

By: eHarmony Blog

eHarmony Blog — Wed, 05 Mar 2008 06:57:27 +0000

Sure… I changed the poll so you can now make multiple selections.

By: SingleGuyInNC

SingleGuyInNC — Wed, 05 Mar 2008 06:11:15 +0000

Can we get another option in the poll, “All of the above”, as in, it depends on which match I’m talking about!