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1. Just a Guy... wrote:

   Hey, some of my best dates have been teachers. Each of them has been literate, curious, artistic, and passionate. They’re great! Unfortunately, I haven’t gotten any in a while, so send yours my way…

   I completely agree with you on the social workers, though. I was married to one at one point, and I have never met a more obnoxious and boring group of people in my life.

   Posted 13 Feb 2008 at 7:56 am ¶
2. SingleGuyInNC wrote:

   A case of not hot for teacher, eh?

   It’s just that such a high percentage of women go into those professions that you get that skew of a high number of teachers/social workers.

   I see this trend also having spent some time perusing match.com to try and widen the net I’m casting (funny enough, I have gotten way more communications from eH folks than match.com) – of course, the mode of operation being that I throw the personality and hard questions at them. No dice, for those of you who may be thinking about that but I’m not having more concrete results with eH, either.

   The other thing going “against” you is you are being matched based on personality, which also has something to do their demeanor, drive and desires and if personality X is what you match against, it is probably highly biased towards women who will want to enter those professions.

   I wouldn’t rule them out solely on profession, since folks can/do change careers and some of them may find they want “out” given the right circumstances in the long term. Perfectly reasonable question to ask anyone – do you imagine yourself continuing in your career or aspiring to do something else.

   Just some food for thought.

   Posted 13 Feb 2008 at 8:14 pm ¶
3. Pyke wrote:

   Are you saying that Match.com also has too many teachers and social workers? Oh dear.

   Literate? Not one single teacher or social worker among my matches has ever sent me custom Stage 3 questions. Most of them still ask me, ‘What are you looking for in a relationship partner?’ even if I have already given a very precise answer in my profile. Gee… but that’s a topic for another rant.

   Posted 13 Feb 2008 at 9:02 pm ¶
4. SingleGuyInNC wrote:

   “Are you saying that Match.com also has too many teachers and social workers?”

   Yup. It seems, at least to me, to be a gender stereotype that has some factual basis. I’d be curious to see the numbers but there’s validation in that few(er) women seem to choose science/math/engineering education/careers.

   Regarding how people communicate and what they want: not all of them know what they really want and aren’t as serious. It seems like a lot of people are using the service just like match.com and aren’t truly interested in developing a quality relationship and just want “a date”.

   Since most profiles tend to say the same thing at the same level of detail, I just tend to use the same set of custom questions for Stage 3 and get them to OC and prod in more details there.

   I think eH needs an icon/selection criteria for “I’ve read Dr. Warren’s books/I have a clue” instead of the ones for the PPP and RelyID.

   Posted 15 Feb 2008 at 6:58 am ¶
5. Shar wrote:

   I get matched with loads of:

   Teachers & Principals (lot’s of Doctorates in that group)
   Real Estate Investors
   Actors
   Musicians
   Health Care Professionals (anything from Nurse to Cardiologist)
   CEO’s of start-ups
   Lawyers
   Social Workers / Humanitarians

   Teachers of all sorts certainly are the largest group in my matches. I think they must get a Union discount, lol.

   Posted 27 Jun 2008 at 7:44 am ¶

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