David compares eHarmony’s matchmaking focus and the focus of a church:
Eharmony is built around the idea that they are going to be thorough in their analysis of every person, so that when they do suggest a match a high likelihood exists that two people will be compatible. The unfortunate result is that they will from time to time have people for whom they don’t have a match. Rather than suggest a match which falls below their standards, they choose to apologize to that person and say, “We can’t hook you up right now.”
Apparently, others take a different approach. They have the philosophy that they will just throw as many people together as they possibly can, and figure that with this many people you’re certain to find a match. The unfortunate result is that a lot of people spend a lot of time pursuing a lot of relationships with a lot of people with whom they DON’T have a lot in common. The more unfortunate result is that a lot more feelings get hurt and a lot more people are rejected by actual people they have invested themselves in (rather than a computer with whom they have no relationship).
I see a lot of churches that take the second approach. …Read the rest of his post