“My eHarmony profile fit me perfectly….”
While looking up some information last Tuesday we found this quiz from Cosmopolitan magazine. It puts in perspective whether personality questionnaires are worth their time.
Instead of punishing you with 11 questions, we’ve shortened the Cosmo quiz to ONE QUESTION. It’s more fun and instantaneous.
Question: Your boyfriend is in the shower when his cell rings. The screen reads “Lisa.” You:
- Pick it up and demand, “Who is this, and why are you calling my man?”
- Tell him someone named Lisa called and nonchalantly ask who she is
- Let it go to voice mail… Whatever
If you answer 1, you are Suspicious Spy-Girl:
- From hijacking his phone calls to raiding his emails to questioning his every move, you believe you’re just being vigilant. “In your mind, men will cheat at the first sign that they can get away with it,” Coleman says.
- But your round-the-clock “Who’s that? Is she single? Why are you quiet? Talk to me!” act is, well, just shy of insane.
- Tip: Realize that your guy is dating you — not someone else — for a reason, and it’s almost insulting to treat him otherwise.
If you answer 2, you are Perceptive Partner
- Sure, you feel perfectly entitled to probe into your man’s life sometimes, but you’re not in the business of making him think he’s dating a CIA agent.
- For example, when your friend tells you her normally sweet guy dumped her out of the blue, you take note of it but don’t worry that you’re about to be kicked to the curb, too.
- Because you’re willing to listen, it encourages him to talk about anything and builds trust between you as a couple.
If you answer 3, you are Too-Trusting Chick
- If your guy came home with a perfume-splashed shirt, you’d tell yourself he was ambushed walking through a department store.
- Plus, you may have a fear that if you dig too deep, you might get hurt.
- But you’re selling yourself and your twosome short by not holding him accountable. Sure, clamming up three nights in a row and meeting with a girl pal don’t add up to much on their own, but if you notice a string of red flags, speak up.
- You can also find out what’s really going on. And if he gets cagey or angry with you for mentioning it, you may realize he’s not the right guy for you anyway.
Millions of adult people read this magazine, and from what we heard, most of them are mentally balanced and are productive members of society. Cosmo began in 1965. What we want to know is:
- Why do we need a quiz to determine how trusting we are?
- Why do we agree to choose only among three behaviours?
- Why do we let a magazine generalise us and give us a label?
- and finally, Why do we listen to its suggestion on how trusting we must be?
Is it because a celebrity psychologist/bestselling author/Christian leader wrote the test and the diagnoses? Is the test “amazing” because “my profile fit me perfectly”?
“Wow the quiz really found out who I am! You gotta try it!”
No, thank you. Leave me alone.
In response to this post regarding “personality tests/questions”, these style of tests are Only useful in assessing Consumer Behavior. They don’t even come close to being able to pinpoint the complexities involved in the creation of romantic love. Love is based on factors which are mostly Irrational and Unconscious, and are POOR (at best!) in predicting love relationships. The greatest personality assessment test Ever created, the MMPI, has At Best 30% validity. eHarmony’s take is completely offbase, as any Psychoanalyst worth his/her salt would know…
So, keep wasting your money… it will lead you nowhere.
by Joe on Jun 12, 2009 at 11:16 am