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Even the wishy-washy profile (“Agreeableness, Openness, Emotional Stability, Conscientiousness, Extraversion”) from the recently-shortened questionnaire version, and even when your Openness is that high, we here recommend against showing your profile to your matches.

Reason #1. It reveals too much too soon.

Since humans are unpredictable and fickle creatures, revealing the personality profile results to one’s matches produces unpredictable results.

In our opinion, the only time to show one’s profile to a match is after several months of seeing each other. No earlier.

If you have decided to reveal it, here’s how to do it: Print it out, pack it on your trip, and present it to your match either in jest (“Wanna read something funny?”) or like a love letter (“There’s a reason why I asked you here.”).

Reason #2. It creates no interest whatsoever.

The purpose of this activity — dating, online dating, eHarmony, Guided Communication (and even eHarmony Blog itself) — is to beguile a person to respond. The personality profile does not do this. It’s not even in marketing-speak — it’s a namby-pamby boilerplate horoscope.

I agree with Scott. And, yes, I never met a person that had so little social skills to figure me out (or was that lazy to do it) that this person asked me for mine.

Here’s a statistic: Out of my 470 matches only 1 person revealed the personality profile.

Reason #3. It’s set in stone.

We can’t adjust it like we can adjust our About Me answers or how we answer our matches’ questions. Frankly, we’re just giving the other person more reasons to close us with the “Based on the statements in the profile I’m not interested in this match.”