The truth is…a lot of religious fundies WANT us to be dissolute, diseased freaks they can pity. It fits in with their practiced religious humility and world view. What really freaks them out is the idea that we might actually be like them, and want the same things they want out of life. That is a truly offensive thought to them.

As a gay man in a relationship of over 20 years, I have this advice: don’t bother with eHarmony. You may be able to pressure them into “running a match” for you, but they don’t really think you’re worth much. Find people who do.

ps…”gays…build your own dam disgusting dating site for pervies like you and leave us “religious fanatics” aka decent folk the hell alone. You will NEVER be LEGITIMATE no matter how long and hard you try <<>> will always be WRONG!!!!!!!!

Could you imagine the fallout if eharmony advertised in the same way they do now, but then once a black person, jewish person, or Asian, person, or any other perceived minority, were declined by eharmony? I think people would more openly say that is wrong. It baffles me how it is not considered so with gay people. Why people feel it is perfectly okay for tolerance of intolerance, that even baffles the mind further.

Yet when eharmony is pressed to legitimze their reason they respond with a strange argument that they have never done research on what makes gay relationship work “versus” their 30-some years of “research” in what makes heterosexual relationships work. Nonsense! The bottom line of any business IS THE BOTTOMLINE which is to make a profit in providing a service. They obviously could consult with “gay research” and incorporate it into their business/marketing plan IF THEY SO WANTED TO AND WERE NOT DISCRIMINATING!

They obviously do not want to and the reason is that they are not interested in finding “soulmates” for gay people because they believe gay people are an abomination to their company’s clandestine conservative Christian stance. OK, one can argue that if they are conservative Christians and it’s their business to run how they see fit. Fine, then they out to say so upfront that they are such.

But again, to do so and to invest in outreach to the gay community would legitimise gay people as equals and worthy of the same service they provide anyone else as human beings. But that is the basis of prejudiced people — they believe they are superior and that “certain” people are lesser and not equals and worthy of service.

They further argue that gay marriage is illegal, well that’s a nice catch-22 argument! It’s illegal for the very same reason they don’t offer service to homosexuals — they are prejudiced.

In this day and age, we need open dialogue and understanding. There cannot be room for tolerance of intolerance. I think more light should be shed on this. But, hey, I AM JUST a minority and should accept it that I am not worthy. We are all worthy and denial of service from a business is bigotry. If they want to be a church service then do so, but hey, that would cut into their bottom line of profit which is what they are making at the expense of people. They love having it both ways and that’s it. We really need to come together and stop any intolerance. Dialogue is needed to do so.

eHarmony’s assertion that it matches “compatible” people is based, primarily, on the clinical experience of it’s founder.

It’s founder only has clinical experience with straight couples.

The reason that he only has experience with straight couples is because he’s a right-wing Christian, and never felt that he should devote any time to learning what makes homosexual relationships work.

And that sums it up.