Tips and tricks: Let your match view you first

Our eHarmony trick for today is not for everyone. Obviously — because if everyone did this trick then no one will communicate with anybody.

Since we’re left to our own devices and eHarmony’s company policy is to never reveal if our match is active or not, what if we can somehow see whether this member actually came in and viewed our profile, at least once? Then we can save an awful lot of time reviewing profiles of members who don’t even log in.

Sure we can! Here’s how:

Tips and tricks: Let your match view you first - eHarmony Blog

On this screenshot I have matches 1, 2 and 3. See for yourself if you agree with us regarding their differences:

  • Match 1 is an untouched match — neither the match or I have viewed each other.
  • Match 2 is a viewed match — the other person has viewed me! It’s not a dead account!
  • Match 3 is a viewed match — I have viewed them!

Today’s trick is, let your match view you first. Don’t view matches in the “Introduction” stage!

  • If your match turns into a “1 2 3 4 OPEN”, then you know that they logged in and looked at your profile.
  • If your match turns into a “1 2 3 4 OPEN” within a couple of days after you were matched, then the person is absolutely fresh and more likely a paying member.

I didn’t do this trick when I paid for the service last year. Hmph, the less people who know this trick the better it works.

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Comments 4

  1. qwer78 wrote:

    I like the sound of this trick, although it might be more useful once you have got frustrated!

    I found that opening up lots of matches and answering the questions was useful as I kept records of my answers which made it quicker when dealing with matches I liked.

    Bear in mind that sending the first set of questions takes no time, so this trick does not save you much.

    What is really frustrating is when you are close to exchanging details with somebody and either their or your subscription expires so you can’t.

    It’s at this point that you need a way to find if they are still a paid member.

    Posted 04 Nov 2008 at 7:27 am
  2. dave davis wrote:

    How do I “hide” my profile and take a break?

    Posted 13 Mar 2009 at 3:29 am
  3. Perdita wrote:

    Actually I work the other way. I view all my matches. That fact, combined with a full profile with photos, gives them a good indication that I’m an active subscriber. And if I’ve viewed them and not closed them, then they should assume that I’m up for them contacting me, if they’re interested (that doesn’t necessarily mean that I’m interested in them, I just use it as a filter). Then – over to them. If they don’t view me within 2 weeks, they get closed (i.e. inactive or not a subscriber). If they view me, and don’t initiate contact within 2 weeks, they get closed (i.e. non-subscriber OR a wimp that can’t close when they’re not interested OR someone who’s got too many other women on the go but still has matching on – player). Simple!

    Having said that, I’m a newbie on eharmony so I may be missing a trick here…

    Posted 24 Mar 2010 at 7:58 pm
  4. joe wrote:

    honestly, who cares if they’re paying members or not? If they answer, they answer. If they don’t, they don’t. Why would you not email someone you liked because you thought maybe they weren’t a paying member?

    Posted 06 Sep 2010 at 8:24 am

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