Comments on: Poll 9 (Feb 07): The lies of eHarmony members

By: Stacey

Stacey — Mon, 22 Oct 2007 18:05:11 +0000

Word to the wise: Be sure you have checked off all the appropriate boxes in your eharmony Settings window if you don’t want to continue your subscription. If not, they will charge your credit card or bank account … and then refuse to refund your money when you call to tell them that you didn’t want to renew your subscription.

Apparently part of the information that they bombard you with when you first sign up (in addition to the brutal personality questionnaire) is a notice that you have basically agreed to automatically renew your subscription … unless you go into the Settings window and make sure to check the right boxes. (There’s a do not renew option, along with a cancel my subscription option.)

That’s fine and dandy. But you’d think they’d at least send you an e-mail alert BEFORE renewing your subscription and asking you if you want to renew, instead of sending the e-mail AFTER they have charged your credit card. To me, that would be a much more forthcoming way to do business, particularly since they bombard you with e-mail about every other little thing. (It really annoying to get a message every time someone matches your personality profile, or there’s a special on memberships, or someone responds to your questions.)

So just beware of this issue, or you will be charged and they will unequivocally refuse to refund your money.

By: John

John — Sun, 21 Oct 2007 04:20:36 +0000

Let me give you some advice guys. If a women only gives you a picture from the neck up, run for cover. I’ve been very disappointed on many occasions to arrive a resturant only to say to myself “step aside, wide load coming through”!!!

By: mary

mary — Wed, 10 Oct 2007 10:44:16 +0000

Went out with a guy, emmi from eharmony, who lied about his name and other things! How can they let people get away with this? Always do a background check on everyone you date, no matter how normal they seem.

By: caffeine freak

caffeine freak — Sun, 15 Apr 2007 21:25:44 +0000

It seems to be mostly height, body type, and desire for children that the men I’ve met through e-harmony lie about.

For example, if my 5’1 self towers over you in 3 inch heels, you’re not 5’10. You’re just not.

And, if you are hell-bent on having kids, don’t put “maybe” just to cast your net wider. Someone who doesn’t want kids isn’t going to make you happy if you do. There is little more pathetic than someone who is so desperate to get married now now now, that they don’t care to whom and under what conditions.

By: eharmonyblog

eharmonyblog — Thu, 08 Feb 2007 01:25:44 +0000

Omission, I think, is part of putting one’s best foot forward; all of us have skeletons in our closets.

Wow, look at the results — does this mean the long test weeds out the unscrupulous, or does this mean people are sincere when the focus is long-term dating?

By: Scott Grey

Scott Grey — Mon, 05 Feb 2007 17:57:41 +0000

Well, it’s impossible to sum up the totality of oneself in the profile. And if you COULD, how boring would that be?

The worst offenders were intentionally deceptive photos, and people who are so self-deluded as to who they really are. Fortunately, they weren’t common.

I’d say everyone that I met embellished a little bit. Even my sweetie. I think it’s just human nature to some degree. (Although I like to think of myself as scrupulously honest…)

By: Timothy Mahar

Timothy Mahar — Sat, 03 Feb 2007 08:23:45 +0000

I would suspect that omitting significant details is a much bigger problem than out-and-out lying.

What was your experience?