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I would like to date some nice women from this service but feel like I have trouble connecting with them

Thanks for all the great eharmony info. I found a lot of helpful things here.

I have a question. I get lots of matches, which is great, but I am not sure how to best contact ones I like. I have been emailing people messages saying

“I think your profile is great. You look cool…… so do you want to grab coffee sometime? Or do ?”

I feel like the eharmony questions and stuff is silly. I will know in 30mins over coffee if someone is a good ‘match’ why should I waste both our time with childish questions from drop boxes?

Please advise. I would like to date some nice women from this service but feel like I have trouble connecting with them.

Luc

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Comments 3

  1. Scott Grey wrote:

    Here’s my “Fast Track” message template:

    http://eharmonycracked.blogspot.com/2007/08/from-labs-fast-track-communication.html

    Posted 06 Aug 2010 at 8:54 am
  2. snowbunny wrote:

    Greetings Luc,
    Okay, I am not on eharmony…yet, but from a female perspective there are a couple of changes you may want to consider;
    “I think your profile is great” is very sweet, perhaps slide in one example so they know you actually read it and aren’t just sending out a blanket greeting. Ladies like that – A LOT. :)
    “You look cool” is good if you’re talking to hipsters or gals with tatoos, ones who don’t have those features you may want to consider taking that out.
    “Would you like to get a coffee together sometime” is a wonderful invite.
    “Or do?” Does not make sense. If you are asking if they’d like to do something else, offer alternatives or just delete the line.
    You rock for asking for advice, and I hope this helped!

    Posted 20 Aug 2011 at 3:22 am
  3. Corinne wrote:

    I agree with snowbunny. The blanket greeting (without mentioning anything personal about the woman) is a turn-off. If you change your wording how snowbunny pointed out, you’re guaranteed to get better responses. Good luck to ya’! :)

    Posted 28 Aug 2011 at 4:54 pm

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