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What do you think about stating sexuality Must Haves?

What do people think about stating this early on, especially #49 and #50? Ladies, is this too forward or is it good to get out in the open so to speak? I think it’s good to specify a sexual appetite upfront but I’m a guy. Or is it safer to imply it by selecting #17?

Sexuality

47. Abstinent…
I must have a spouse who has saved himself/herself sexually for marriage.
48. Traditional…
I must have someone who is reserved and traditional in their sexual needs.
49. Sexually Knowledgeable…
I must have someone who is mature and experienced as a potential sexual partner and is able to express himself/herself freely.
50. Passionate…
I must have someone who is willing to explore our sexual desires with passion and understanding.
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17. Affectionate…
I must have someone who is comfortable giving and receiving affection.

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Comments 7

  1. eharmonyblog wrote:

    winspenelli, how old are you and how old are your matches? Also, are you in a traditional/conservative neck of the woods?

    Posted 12 Jul 2010 at 11:50 am
  2. winspenelli wrote:

    Hi, I’m 40 and my matches the same or younger in Southern California so I’d say we’re not conservative sexually. I just don’t want to turn women off if they think that’s first on my mind but it is something that is important in determining compatibility for me.

    Posted 12 Jul 2010 at 12:02 pm
  3. john wrote:

    Affection and sexuality are not necessarily mutual.
    . . .
    Someone who is Traditional in San Francisco, maybe considered an extreme in other parts of the country.
    . . .
    Experience and knowledge are not necessarily mutual.

    Posted 12 Jul 2010 at 6:16 pm
  4. SusiSunshine wrote:

    I’m in my 60′s, and always put #49 & #17 on my Must Have’s. I’ve gotten deleted a couple of times but not enough times to make me think it was about sexuality. I’m interested in a healthy, active senior citizen, not some ol’ wheezer-geezer.

    Posted 12 Jul 2010 at 8:06 pm
  5. Elizabeth R wrote:

    #17 and/or #49 would be fine. I don’t think she will interpret it as “first thing on your mind” at all. Every woman I know in their thirties are past the stage of being coy about their sexual needs.

    Good luck in your search.

    Posted 14 Jul 2010 at 6:49 am
  6. Johnny Vegas wrote:

    I don’t think there is anything wrong with stating what you want in a partner.

    I agree with John though, sexual experience and knowledge are two different things – just because you have one or the other, doesn’t necessarily make for a good lover.

    I’d say for me #50 is the most important. With passion and a genuine willingness to explore sexual desires with you lover, you’ll be able to overcome lack of sexual knowledge/experience as well as just create an more fulfilled experience and hopefully both of you will getbetter in bed and with each other’s bodies.

    Just my 2 cents though.

    Johnny

    Posted 02 Jan 2011 at 12:08 am
  7. Family Dental Mesa wrote:

    I love the thought that you really emphasize yourself as being a gentleman. You’re only few left in the world today, I guess so.Family Dental Mesa

    Posted 02 Feb 2011 at 6:48 pm

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