Do you think being being closed out is terrible? Look at me: as of this moment, 118 matches closed communication with me. A good number of them, according to eHarmony Blog’s July Poll, have lost their mind.
It’s annoying. When Match #83 wants nothing to do with me anymore because “I would rather not say”, it didn’t exactly raise my self-confidence. Nor did Match #94, who had “Other” reasons to reject me.
So you readers probably ask:
Do I send a final message?
Why yes, of course! I always check the fourth and or fifth choices. I send them as soon as I see them. Yes, everyone who closed me received a final message (unless I’m hit by the “Final Message Bug” again, that is).
Reason #1. It’s the only way your match can change his mind.
In eHarmony’s stiff communication process, closing a match has no undo button. Sure your reason, “I’m taking a break from dating,” is legitimate, but what eHarmony doesn’t tell you is, you cannot reopen the match anymore later when you want.
For me, this is the #1 reason to send the message: Give your match the chance to resume the communication. People are funny creatures because they change their minds all the time.
Reason #2. What’s three clicks compared to what you did so far?
I mean, you read his profile, send him questions, read his replies, answered his questions and so forth. You already invested time on this match — how can it hurt to click the mouse three more times? Send it already!
Reason #3. It works.
Out of 118 I had 5 people resume communication with me. No, I don’t care that my batting average sucks. What’s important is, I’ve said I think there is a connection and ask for reconsideration. For fence-sitters like 4 of my matches, it was all they needed to talk to me back.
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