eHarmony Blog.comFor many, figuring out what to say or do to go out a date is confusing as it is. Does using the eHarmony service help, or does it make meeting people all more confusing?
This month, let’s measure eHarmony’s learning curve — to let those interested in joining know what to expect.
Loading ...*Open Communication (OC), also known as, eHarmony Mail, is the last stage of Guided Communication. See, eHarmony even has its own terms and acronyms!
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“Describe one thing about yourself that only your best friends know” 22 seconds agoI think there’s a flaw in the poll that might be inaccurately high results for the answer, “OVER FOUR MONTHS (BEFORE I REACHED OC* AND MADE A DATE TO MEET)”
I started using eharmony before the changes of the last ~6 months or so, and I thought it was pretty easy to figure out. I think I could have navigated OC sooner, given a match who was equally interested in doing so.
Thanks for the feedback, Rebecca. I’ve extended the choices.
eHarmony is a JOKE! Matches my a** I have a dual masters degree and I”m being matched with truck drivers and people that live 2+ hours away from me. In the last month I have only been sent 43 matches for which NONE I want to communicate with or see. Definitely wouldn’t do again!
@rebecca – Let’s see. Dual masters but puts down truckers. Maybe you need a third one…
All your matches were 2+ hours away?
If you set your Settings > Distance to the max you are willing to go, then move the little slider to far right (7) under “How important is this to you?” it will not send you matches too far.
Or, would you like me to get you pictograms for how to do this 2nd grade task?
You get 43 matches in one month. That’s over 3 possible dates every two days.
Actually, eH is not sending you 43 because they think you are such a great match, but because they are hoping some loser schmuck will pick a whiner like you, and get you off their system. Clearly they need to send more, as no one is dumb enough…
John, EHarmony sends “flexible matches’ no matter what the distance you specify is. I live in San Diego and am a bonafide city girl who wants someone taller than me. Today they sent 2 men from Montana and North Dakota, complete with horse and tractor pictures.
Easily half of them have been my height or shorter…
I signed up for 3 months…aargh!!!
mysmermaid,
You settings aren’t set right.
You must have your Distance Importance setting set lower than it should be.
If you set it to MAX, they will NOT send you matches outside of your distance range.
Go to My Settings -> Distance -> “How Important is this to you”, and change it from whatever you have it at, to “Very – 7″.
Now, for the Height thing, that is your problem, not ours.
Lets just hope you aren’t fat, because the guys you are filtering down to, are very likely the same guys will shut you down just as fast as you are shutting down shorter guys.
Good Luck.
mysmermaid, eHarmony doesn’t match on city-girlness, height, ability to see, political zealousness … or possession of a horse or a tractor. You will have to cull your matches on these on your own. Sorry.
I second ScottK’s advice on distance settings. It takes up to three days for Match Settings changes to apply.
Good luck and I hope you find the man of your dreams.
Thank you Scott ,My settings are correct (as evidenced by the banner stating they are too restrictive). They send what they call ‘flexible matches’, perhaps because I am 60 and the pickings are slimmer if they aren’t trying to give you some who is 70..(which I don’t want because I’d like to START a relationship with some good sex).
On a regular site, or on the street, I have men much younger than me strike up conversations because I look and dress and act young. Besides, women outlive men by 7-8 years. Went on EHarmony on a free weekend and I think they are not good for the ‘we match you; you don’t get to pick’ program.
Five weeks to figure out how to use a website? What’s wrong with this pcture?
Navigating the website isn’t the issue. Figuring out the right combination of profile and communications to actually _meet someone_ tends to be the problem and can take a number of weeks to months or years…
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