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More questions answered about the Archived tab

Questions:

  1. Do my matches get a message or find out that I archived them?
  2. Will I go to their Archived folder if I archive them?
  3. Do I archive matches whom I see no potential at all?
  4. Do I archive matches who are obviously dead profiles?
  5. Do I archive matches after I send them an initial Icebreaker?
  6. Do I archive matches whom I somewhat like but I want them to initiate?
  7. Do I archive matches before going away on a trip?
  8. Do I archive matches whom I like but don’t have time for? That is, to put them on hold?
  9. Do I initiate communication with matches whom I like even if there’s a chance that they’ve already archived me?
  10. Is the Archived tab designed to twist me out of closing my matches too soon?

Answers:

  1. No.
  2. No.
  3. Yes.
  4. Yes.
  5. If you “collect” many of these, then to keep your sanity, Yes.
  6. If you “collect” many of these, then to keep your sanity, Yes.
  7. No, just leave them on the New tab.
  8. No, just leave them on the New tab.
  9. Yes, you bet.
  10. Yes, you bet.

Here is the key: If the matches you’ve archived are dead (We all know that a ton of our matches are dead accounts), then they’re as good as closed anyway and you’ll never hear from them again. BUT if they rewrite their profile or if they upload better photos or if they initiate, then you can re-evaluate whether you’d like to talk to them.

The best use of the Archived tab is to treat it as a Recycle Bin. Initiate communication with matches whom you like — Archive the rest. Then when things are slow, you can visit your Archived tab and “recover” some of them back into action.

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    Comments 14

    1. sjenn76 wrote:

      I’ve got a question: what if someone you had closed in the past and were in the closed folder….why do they now appear in my archive folder. Does that mean they want to re-open communication?? Or is this a mistake??

      Posted 12 Jul 2010 at 8:43 am
    2. eharmonyblog wrote:

      sjenn76, see http://eharmony-blog.com/1925 , number 3.

      Posted 12 Jul 2010 at 11:42 am
    3. sjenn76 wrote:

      Hi…#3 didn’t really help, as these were not new matches to be closed

      These matched I had already closed either in 2008 or 2009…and were in my closed folder (as of 2 weeks ago) since I chose to close over a year ago…

      Why would they be moved from closed into archived?? I never did that, I closed them for a reason, why would they show up with “re-open”??

      It must be an error with eharmony. Since I didn’t get a message from Customer Service with a request to re-open. Has anyone else had this problem?

      Posted 12 Jul 2010 at 11:55 am
    4. eharmonyblog wrote:

      Ahh, then sjenn76 it must be this one: http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/dating-advice/using-eharmony/42424-tech-issue-matches-reappearing-archive-folder.html .

      Posted 12 Jul 2010 at 12:08 pm
    5. sjenn76 wrote:

      great thanks!!! I thought it was strange that these matches had reappeared.

      Posted 12 Jul 2010 at 12:13 pm
    6. john wrote:

      Here is a q I do not know the answer to…

      I got to OC, but after a “thanks but no thanks”, I closed the match.

      Do they get the message first then see that they are closed in the Archived tab, or they never actually get triggered to read the “thanks but no thanks” last message?

      Posted 12 Jul 2010 at 6:21 pm
    7. john wrote:

      I wrote the “thanks but no thanks”… then closed her.

      Posted 12 Jul 2010 at 6:21 pm
    8. winspenelli wrote:

      Are you sure about #2? I’ve seen a couple of my new matches move to my Archive tab after I sent them a communication and did nothing else. I assume they archived me and their profile was moved. Thanks

      Posted 12 Jul 2010 at 7:15 pm
    9. john wrote:

      Wouldn’t be nice to know what does what? I mean, functionally, it would be awesome to actually know at least the basics. (i.e. how does archiving really work? What does “not important” mean in height, how “recent activity” sort…etc)

      I have noticed that some e-mails that are sent out still reference links, pages or structures that no longer exist.

      Posted 13 Jul 2010 at 5:45 am
    10. eharmonyblog wrote:

      winspenelli, they closed you. See http://eharmony-blog.com/1925 , number 3, as well.

      Posted 13 Jul 2010 at 11:17 am
    11. Elizabeth R wrote:

      john, because of Auto-Archive, you are now in her Archive tab. If she goes there and looks for you there, she can find your OC message. It takes a dozen clicks to do this. It ain’t easy. Meanwhile, shortly, she will get the ‘communication received’ email notification. This email is sent from a separate queue, so she would receive it within minutes or within hours.

      Posted 14 Jul 2010 at 6:40 am
    12. Ethan wrote:

      Do you know why I can’t archive a match that is on the Communicating tab? I have a couple of matches (just a couple) where communications has stalled – I’m waiting for them to respond. My options are to leave them there on the Communicating tab, or close them.

      Closing will prevent them from ever responding – I don’t want to do that (I have no reason to burn bridges). But I also don’t want them cluttering up my Communicating tab either.

      What I would like to do is move them to the Archived tab. They probably will never respond, but I don’t want to prevent them from responding. So putting them in the archive makes the most sense. But that is the one thing eHarmony doesn’t let me do.

      I know I also have the option to nudge them. But what if I don’t want to nudge them; what if I want to play it cool? Or, what if I do nudge them and they still don’t respond? I’m back where I started. Probably eHarmony recommends I close them at this point… I’ve given them enough chances, so I should now block all communcation? Is that the case? Have I answered my own question?

      Posted 15 Jul 2010 at 11:02 pm
    13. eharmonyblog wrote:

      Ethan, I agree it’s weird that this is missing. Two months ago we suggested something to reduce clutter, the Waiting for Response tab http://eharmony-blog.com/1931 . As of now, until you close them or they respond, they’ll just sit there as “Waiting” in the Communication tab.

      Posted 19 Jul 2010 at 8:17 am
    14. Sarah wrote:

      I’m curious about the “recent activity” sort feature. Without looking at this guy’s profile (and thus appearing to be the stalker that I am), he is in my “archive” because he closed me. I thought that sorting by “recent activity” would tell me how frequently he was logging in, and but I don’t think that’s what it’s doing because there are people farther down on my list than him in this sorted view who have logged in with both more and less frequency than him. What does “recent activity” refer to, then? I am also certain that it isn’t sorted by the date the person closed me (or vice versa) because he closed me Jan 20th, and there are people both higher and lower on this list who have closed me both before and after that date. I’m super confused…

      Posted 31 Jan 2012 at 4:38 am

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