I get dozens of matches but I cannot access my account because I’m separated

What kind of game is eHarmony playing here!?

First, I go through all the intital questions to register for an account.

Then I sign in, only to be told I cannot be assisted because I am “separated” and I cannot access the account.

Then I get dozens of emails from interested women who I can’t meet, as I cannot access my account.

Then I cannot send a question or complaint through regular channels, wanting only to deactivate the account and stop the emails.

Then I have to resort to other means by joining this blog, which was a hassle in itself.

     1. Why can’t persons who are separated and waiting for a divorce meet new people?

     2. Why send emails of interested parties if contact cannot be made?

     3. Why make it difficult to deactivate an account which cannot be accessed in the first place!?

Just know that I will definitely share this experience with as much people, web-sites, blogs, dating services and network services as I can possibly think of or come across.  This is ignorant policy by eHarmony.  Already this morning, I have spent more than an hour confronted with frozen pages, dead-ends and useless links, advice or assistance from the eHarmony site, not to mention much frustration and stress!!

Now, if I could either:

     a. access the damned account or,

     b. deactivate that account.

Moreover, I believe a change in eHarmony’s S.O.P’s and mega apologies are in order here, not just to me, but to whoever else was and is put through all these wasteful and time-consuming processes.

demoralised and disillusioned,

- Tony

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Comments 7

  1. eharmonyblog wrote:

    Hi Anthony,
    Would you help me confirm something: in those dozens of emails from interested women do you see somewhere in the bottom the sentence

    “This message was sent to name@domain.com.”?

    If you do, is this name@domain.com the same email address you use to sign into eharmony?

    If you don’t, would you care to post one of these messages here? We want to make sure that the emails indeed came from the site.

    EHB

    Posted 12 May 2010 at 10:30 pm
  2. Anthony wrote:

    Why…

    Yes there is.

    Posted 13 May 2010 at 9:22 am
  3. eharmonyblog wrote:

    Hi Anthony,

    Is there a “This message was sent to name@domain.com” on the bottom of the emails?

    If YES, is name@domain.com the same email you used to sign up with eHarmony?

    If YES again, then what you have is a confirmed technical glitch. “Separated” accounts are not supposed to receive any email at all.

    You have 2 choices:

    1. MARK THEM AS SPAM in your email, so you never see them again.

    2. CALL EHARMONY and have this sorted out. The reps can also explain their policy not to serve people who are still legally married.

    Thanks for posting in EHB.

    Posted 13 May 2010 at 6:22 pm
  4. Anonymous wrote:

    Thank you eHarmony Blog. I appreciate your assistance:

    eharmonyblog wrote:
    Hi Anthony,

    Is there a “This message was sent to name@domain.com” on the bottom of the emails?

    If YES, is name@domain.com the same email you used to sign up with eHarmony?

    If YES again, then what you have is a confirmed technical glitch. “Separated” accounts are not supposed to receive any email at all.

    You have 2 choices:

    1. MARK THEM AS SPAM in your email, so you never see them again.

    2. CALL EHARMONY and have this sorted out. The reps can also explain their policy not to serve people who are still legally married.

    Thanks for posting in EHB.

    Just know that my comments were directed at: john concerning his comments. I am not signed in. I am Anthony.

    Posted 13 May 2010 at 9:47 pm
  5. eharmonyblog wrote:

    [Note: Two comments were removed because of this blog's "no heckling" comment policy. Best regards, EHB]

    Posted 15 May 2010 at 6:17 am
  6. none wrote:

    There is a reason for this. Somehow my ex-husband got around this and was on eharmony trolling for women. He had filed for divorce behind my back (you do not have to notify in my state). This all came out later on and I divorced him. They should do a better job screening.

    Posted 25 Jul 2010 at 11:42 am
  7. SingleGuyInNC wrote:

    It would cost a significant amount for eHarmony to do a background check on every new member to ensure they are “free and clear” of marital obligations. That is not going to happen.

    Posted 25 Jul 2010 at 4:11 pm

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