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1. Fernando Ardenghi wrote:

   “People are leaving dating sites” began 15 months ago == it is part of “the Online Dating Fatigue Phenomenon”

   “meeting boyfriends and girlfriends in Facebook”
   Social networking could merge with online_dating for fun, for flirting, for entertainment purposes, for instant gratification.
   Social networking and online_dating for serious daters are like water and oil, they will never mix.
   Is very interesting to careful read the research conducted by Dr. Jeffrey T. Hancock because it explains why Serious Online Dating (serious daters = the ones who want to achieve a long term relationship with commitment or marriage) and Social Networking will never merge.

   As for eHarmony:
   1) eHarmony is an obsolete 10 years old site.
   2) eHarmony is not scientifically proven.
   3) The success rate of eHarmony is less than 10%. The majority of eHarmony’s members are not going to achieve a long term relationship with commitment (or marriage) using that site.

   In previous comments I had said the entire Online Dating Industry for serious daters in 1st World Countries is a HOAX, performing as a Big Online Casino, with low successful rates.
   Actual paid online dating sites have low effectiveness / efficiency of their proprietary predictive matching methods for LONG TERM mating.

   The Online Dating Industry is selling elixirs, tonics, snake oil liniments and other patent medicines. Patent Medicine Started the Pharmaceutical Industry in the USA.
   Patent medicines were preparations that often contained various ingredients such as opium and alcohol and claimed to cure many if not all diseases. Early drug manufacturers made their own formulations and marketed them under a variety of names.
   Very early patent medicines were often called “Cures” because they claimed to cure many if not all diseases.
   Eventually the USA government stepped in and forced the wording change from “Cure” to “Remedy”. This was to bring a level of honesty into the pharmaceutical industry.
   Most of the major drug companies today got their start with patent medicines. Pharmacists or Doctors would set up a small building with tablet machines or ointment mills and began manufacturing their drugs. This went on without any interference from any government agency.

   One could make any claim and engage in drug making without any credentials.

   Eventually, the federal government began to restrict the manufacture of these drugs. Slowly at first. With time the growing pharmaceutical companies were required to prove the safety of their drugs but not efficacy.
   
   But by the 1960′s efficacy as well as safety were required to be shown for a drug to remain on the market.

   The Online Dating Industry is performing like the Pharmaceutical and Cosmetic Industry before the USA Food and Drug Administration was created.
   The 1902 Biologics Control Act was put in place after diphtheria antitoxin was collected from a horse named Jim who contracted tetanus, resulting in several deaths.
   Jim’s misfortune, and the ensuing tragedy and reaction thus set a precedent for regulation of biologics and set the stage for the formation of the Food and Drug Administration (FDA).

   You can read more about this problem and see several screenshots in my blog.

   Regards,

   Fernando Ardenghi.
   Buenos Aires.
   Argentina.
   ardenghifer@gmail.com

   Posted 03 May 2010 at 8:43 pm ¶
2. Elizabeth R wrote:

   I still think it’s YMMV crud.

   Facebook is fantastic in strengthening people’s connections and relationships and thus getting people to fall in love, but remember Facebook just expands your connections and referrals. It is still categorically “searching on one’s own.”

   It’s crud, it’s YMMV, but in EH, you can at least hope EH used a compatibility filter. Then again the guy or the girl could have fudged the questionnaire.

   Dammit, you can’t win.

   Posted 04 May 2010 at 2:26 am ¶
3. SingleGuyInNC wrote:

   Yeah, right. Just like they say that “everyone” was/is finding people through online dating sites. Maybe if you are 20-ish, still in college and have 1000 “friends” in your personal network you might be able to score some dates. In which case, you are probably cute and have to fend off men/women all the time anyhow, so you don’t really need Facebook or online dating in the first place.

   Not so much for the rest of us. I don’t think it is the tool as much as it is the networking.

   I thought about posting on my profile something to see if it is even remotely possible to find someone (I am highly skeptical) but I haven’t quite figured out how one goes about asking without sounding desperate. Any thoughts?

   How is this for a status update:
   SingleGuyInNC has been trying (with no success) and is tired of online dating with no success. Anyone on here reading this have any suggestions how I can change my status from “single” to “in a relationship”?

   Posted 05 May 2010 at 11:34 am ¶
4. ImaniOne wrote:

   1st things first: you win more with honey then with vinegar. You’re original stance is geared towards the neagative – especially if you intend on keeping the frowning smilie attached. Also, talking about failures is bad and may lead people to think “what’s wrong with this guy?” Your idea is sound, your method – not so much.
   Try this:
   Hey Friends, I’m gettin’ sick of the games and delays with the “marriageshere.com” or “desparatesingles.com” websites. What did you guys do to change that status from “single” to “in a relationship.” {And I’m taking applications for any interested single ladies. }

   See how that’s both stating a dissatisfaction, but in a funny and engaging manner. Shoot, I might use that one myself… except I’ll change the “ladies” to “gentlemen.”

   ~ Blessing!

   Posted 06 May 2010 at 10:21 am ¶
5. SingleGuyInNC wrote:

   Good point and thanks for your comment, ImaniOne.

   The years of disappointment tend to leave one with a bitter/negative aftertaste in your mouth which seems to rear its ugly head in my commentary. I am much cheerier in general. I guess I tend to vent my frustration with the reality of (not) dating on here.

   Most of my close friends already know my predicament and seem to have nothing to offer in terms of potential matches. Perhaps I need more/new friends in my age group…

   Posted 06 May 2010 at 10:33 am ¶
6. john wrote:

   An other problem with Facebook is there is no real way to delete, or keep anything private.

   Look at the API and how all information, including private content can be sucked down, and look at the nightmares how people cannot delete anything, as Facebook keeps the information forever.

   Once it is on ‘Farcebook’, you no longer own the information. They do and they will use it any way and shape they feel like it.

   Posted 07 May 2010 at 1:34 pm ¶
7. SingleGuyInNC wrote:

   This is a somewhat scary revelation about Facebook and dating:
   http://scitech.blogs.cnn.com/2010/05/21/does-facebook-know-who-youll-date-next/

   Posted 25 May 2010 at 11:23 pm ¶

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