How do you focus your settings to prevent so many bad matches? I thought I had focused my interest in women who actually danced, rather than said they did, liked to do mountain hiking and do adventure travel rather than said they thought they might want to. Apparently, the eHarmony database engine just does keyword matches so any woman who puts “dancing” or walking or hiking in her profile is sent to me. I have spent dozens of hours reading and closing more than 250 “matches” during the past 3 months; how can I prevent that and increase the probability of receiving more compatible matches?
How can I set preferences to avoid receiving so many matches in my inbox at once–10-15 a day are too many to cope with?
To be frank, how can I set my preferences or settings to avoid receiving matches from unattractive, overweight women with whom I have nothing in common?
Once one begins “open communication,” what questions can I ask to determine whether a “match” is going to turn out to be someone who will stop communicating without bothering to either tell me by email or actually close the match through the system? On 3 occasions, I’ve had open communication with apparently interested and interesting women and all 3 simply stopped communicating without being courteous enough to politely let me know. What have other men experienced?
Thanks very much for everyone’s help.
From eHarmony newbie, Robert
The sooner you stop caring about those (admittedly frustrating) individuals who just stop messaging back, the more you’ll enjoy the dating experience. Admittedly, it’s something of a difference between having your feet stomped on and being kicked in the shin, but that’s dating.
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