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1. JustAGuy wrote:

   I think there’s a better way to do this:

   1. You are presented with a list of matches each day. You can vote either to approve or reject the match.

   2. At the same time, your matches have a list of their own, which they can approve or reject.

   3. If both you and your match approve each other, you are released into open communication. Otherwise, you never see anything about them again.

   This gets around the “dead match” problem that I have with eHarmony (you fire and forget) as well as the “Do I write out a fasttrack to a dead account?” dilemma.

   Posted 15 Oct 2009 at 9:20 am ¶
2. Pyke wrote:

   JustAGuy, I think the current system is already similar:

   1. You are presented with a list of matches each day. You can vote either to [initiate communication] or [close it outright].
   2. At the same time, your matches have a list of their own, which they can [initiate communication] or [close outright].
   3. [If the other party responds and it's not a free weekend, the first party can compose his message and send his FastTrack request.]

   “Otherwise, you never see anything about them again.”

   This is the equivalent of “ignoring those you have sent initial questions to and haven’t responded.”

   Yes I know it’s not the same. But the system can be used as I have described as I’m sure hundreds of people do.

   I’m also sure hundreds of people have figured out how to ignore introduction pages at least until they have responded to the two-click initial questions.

   Posted 15 Oct 2009 at 1:58 pm ¶
3. Pyke wrote:

   Read how TheGabe does it
   http://eharmony-blog.com/1197

   Posted 15 Oct 2009 at 2:01 pm ¶
4. JustAGuy wrote:

   Pyke,

   Your comments aren’t showing up for me on the page, even though they’re showing up here. I’m not sure what’s up with that. I think what I mean is that the very first part, the “express interest” works great, but I’d drop the rest of it – the questions, the must haves/can’t stands, second questions – and just punt people into open communication.

   But I’m weird that way.

   Posted 15 Oct 2009 at 2:07 pm ¶
5. SingleGuyInNC wrote:

   Wink, guided or whatever process the site has, if they want to communicate, they will. I’m not sure that ANYTHING makes a difference, having used eH, match, craigslist, OkCupid, chemistry and others.

   I think that for a serious relationship, some of the questions eH poses are good and important ones to talk about, however I’m not sure that they necessarily work with everyone so early in the process and you don’t know them well enough to gauge if they want something serious or something “lighter”.

   That said, I do sort of agree, that after 3 years of eH, having to go through the stages, it is a bit of a pain. They could at least do an auto-skip to automatically send MHCS. I hardly ever change those and it stops/slows down communication. A lot of matches also would work fine with my default responses for first and second questions. Maybe let them see my defaults for all three stages and just let them decide on all of it as an overall extension to the profile?

   I suppose that having all the questions gives someone the opportunity to screen matches. That would be useful if every match responded. For the most part, we take what we can get.

   Posted 17 Oct 2009 at 5:19 am ¶

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