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In Part I of this series, I discussed the origin of the principle of being “Cocky and funny” in order to attract women.

And in Part II, I discussed why being “Cocky and funny” can be so difficult online.

So, if you’re not ready to go to blind trial and error to find what levels of cockiness and humor work in online profiles, is there an alternative?

I believe so.  And I think that it’s a process that’s a step beyond David DeAngelo’s “Cocky/Funny” observation.

The fact is, he was studying men who were good at attracting women.  And, although he was able to encapsulate some of the outward behaviors that they displayed, the “Cocky and Funny” concept doesn’t address WHY attractive men are observed to behave in a cocky and funny way.

And, if you look closer, these attractive men have several qualities that make them act in a cocky and funny way.

The fact is, cockiness, in the moderate sense that attractive men portray, stems from a lot of important qualities.  Confidence.  Self-respect.  The ability to express one’s own desires and interests.  A sense that they don’t worry about other people’s judgments.  And a comfort with their sexuality.

Meanwhile, a mature and “funny” man also displays complementary attractive characteristics.  The ability to express desires in a way that doesn’t seem mean or caustic.  A sense of happiness.  Optimism.  An ability to have fun.  And to show others how THEY can have fun.

And when someone is able to successfully demonstrate these traits in an online profile?  It’s going to be attractive.  And it will usually be just a little bit cocky and funny.  Even when they aren’t trying to be.

And the cocky/funny mix will work itself out naturally.

Oh, and to be fair?  David DeAngelo HAS said many of the same things that I just did.  But, simpler concepts spread easier than more difficult ones.