Come join the eHarmony Cracked Discussion List

Hello Readers,

We’d like to tell you about the email discussion list of one of our friends.

Started in June 2007 (months before eHarmony Advice started), this free private email discussion group has become a place where friends help each other overcome stumbling blocks in successfully meeting people through the eHarmony service. It is the first and the only mailing list of its kind.

The eHarmony Cracked discussion list can help you with:

Profile critiques
Troubleshooting communication with matches
Questions about using eHarmony
Questions about dating and relationships
Getting more second dates

It’s private … The great thing about the EHCML is that it is private. Private means that nobody can Google your email address. Besides being independent from the company, private means that its moderators have to approve the membership. It also means that only its group managers can view the group members list.

Private also means that, unlike eHarmony Advice or eHarmony Blog, your messages aren’t available for the whole world to find and read. Nobody can Google your profile or your photos if you decide to have them critiqued.

It’s about self-improvement … The best thing about it is that it is all about self improvement. Self-improvement means no bitching about the opposite sex, and no protests about awful matches and no squarms about the eHarmony services. It is never a customer support forum, and best of all, it’s not habituated by griping ex-eHarmony members.

The host Scott Grey, one of EHB’s contributors, offers personal advice services and consultations for a fee, but this is mainly to get people off his back. This is as commercial and non-independent as it gets.

The regulars there are also regular readers and contributors here on EHB, men and women alike, so we think it’ll feel like home. (Tell them we sent you. )

See you there!

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Comments 14

Uncle Fester wrote:
I was an early and frequent contributor to this group. I have found the eH Advice discussion forums to be a hundred times more useful than Grey ever was. They are popular with both men and women, and eH has been very hands-off so far.
Posted 15 Sep 2009 at 7:22 pm ¶
Scott Grey wrote:
Personally, I’m glad that my discussion list coexists with eHarmony Blog, eHarmony advice, and many more discussion boards.

We each have our niche. And that’s a good thing. Some people will like one niche better than another.
Posted 22 Sep 2009 at 11:17 am ¶
SYED WAHEED WAHEEDUDDIN wrote:
QUESTION#6

HOW MUCH DRINK ACCEPTABLE FOR YOUR PARTNER.
Posted 13 Nov 2009 at 2:07 pm ¶
sf wrote:
Just to bump this post – how long does it usually take to “approve” a membership to this G group? …
Posted 26 Feb 2010 at 6:40 pm ¶
Benjeana wrote:
I updated my profile with photos and cannott access the page anymore. what have I done wrong, does it take time to update?

When I login I only recieve at tab that says: “My Eharmony homepage” nothing is presented.

Has anyone else had this issue and if so; how can I correct it?
Posted 28 Feb 2010 at 1:28 pm ¶
eharmonyblog wrote:
sf, has Scott gotten a chance to approve your membership yet? Please let me know.

Benjeana, I don’t know. Are you still having the same problem now?
Posted 01 Mar 2010 at 10:17 pm ¶
sf wrote:
Thanks eharmonyblog. Yes, I am all taken care of for now. Next to construct that special profile.
Posted 02 Mar 2010 at 12:09 pm ¶
jodi wrote:
Im just doing the 5 day trial {free}. So far the system only sends me guys 10 yrs older { I stressed the importance of a similar age}. The system also wouldn’t let me enter the new town I am moving to,And now I realize you can’t even contact eharmony with questions…….I’m soooo glad I didn’t sign up I feel as though the entire experience is a complete waste of time.
Posted 26 Apr 2010 at 3:38 pm ¶
lori bartow wrote:
I hate this site my husband of 29 years apparently has been getting on this eharmony bull shit site.and checking out women.I have requested then to stop sending this to us. well I guess a diverce my be in our future.And a law suit from me to eharmony filled. I just think thease sights should stop sending especially if people request it over and over.Trust me it will be his loss.I am 5/4 126 lbs blondish brown hair hazel eyes everyone says I am beautiful. My husband 5/11 280 lbs I guess he will figure it out after it is too late.Is there anyone out there in my shoes.I just wish eharmony would take people off if requested
Posted 30 Jun 2010 at 10:29 am ¶
E. Foley wrote:
Lori,

I’m sorry to hear that your husband is violating his marriage vows. That’s a hard situation to be in and I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy.

That being said, eHarmony isn’t responsible for your husband’s actions: he is. Unless he personally canceled his account and removed himself from the mailing lists, eHarmony will continue to send him matches and emails. You can’t cancel on his behalf (and even if you could, it’s not going to prevent him from finding another way to cheat).

I hope your 5’4″ 126 lb self finds peace with whatever decision you make about your marriage.

Best of luck,

e.
Posted 30 Jun 2010 at 10:35 am ¶
laurie wrote:
Hey, 5’4 run don’t walk I have been there done that and the one thing I can’t get back is time!!!!!!!!! I am 45 yrs young and I am not going to waste another 20 yrs of my lifeot being happy!
Posted 30 Jun 2010 at 6:09 pm ¶
Amanda Cline wrote:
What an ace piece!
Posted 31 Jan 2012 at 12:44 pm ¶
Muslim Dating UK wrote:
“The best thing about it is that it is all about self improvement. Self-improvement means no bitching about the opposite sex, and no protests about awful matches and no squarms about the eHarmony services”

You had won me over with this line. I’m going to sign up. My profile can use some tweeking
Posted 31 Jan 2012 at 11:03 pm ¶
Krissy Fit wrote:
I am on eharmony now and I have not had any luck. None of the matches respond to me, and the matches that actually do respond, seem to not have anythign in common with me, so they loose interet right away and don’t complete the question process. Furthermore, the matches I get are often too far away from me. I get like five matches a day, but none are suitable because they all live either in another state or in the city. I do give a distance preference, but its like if you do too short a distance, that eliminates people who live a reasonable distance for a relationship to work. I live on Long Island, so I get matches in the city, NJ and Conecticut, by doing 50 miles. But if I did less then that, I still get the city and I think NJ and then I don’t get some parts of Long Island. So I am lucky I get a few matches a week in my area, which is just as good as getting only a few matches a week. I am getting very upset because I want to get married more then anything in the world. I got a few date from eharmony, but one was a terrible date. First of all, I asked him if he could meet in my neck of the woods being I don’t drive. I explained that I know how to drive and that I have had a permit before, and may learn again, but just never passed the road test. I asked him he could meet in my neck of the woods. I thought being a gentleman, he should not mind going the extra mile, seeing as he had a car. He insisted we meet halfway, saying it would not be fair for him to go in my neck of the woods. So I was able to get a ride, but was hesitant, due to his attitute, not being a gentleman about meeting me. Did that mean he would not pick me up for a date? So when I went to meet him, he had zero social skills. He acted like he was doing a job interview rather then getting to know a human being. He actually had the nerve to ask me if I had student load depth and question me about whether or not I paid them on time. Then next day, he calls me to tell him that at this time, he wants somebody who drives, and he lectures me about how important that is, but tell me he wants to still be my friend. I declined the offer and was very upset. Then a month later I met another man who was sweet. He met me in my neck of the woods and we went to the diner. However, he seemed to have no clue about dating. He admitted prior to meeting me had not had a real relationship since college. When we went to eat, he was kind, but he would not even look up and give me eye contact to talk to me. Still I liked him a lot and we did seem to hit it off, as we both had a lot to say. Unfortunately, he never called me back after that. It just seems I keep finding me that don’t seem to kow how to keep things going. I tried Jdate after that. I am not Jewish, but my friends who are used it and I knew they did not exclusively date Jewish people, so I used it and checked off that I was open to converting. I met one man who was sweet and a reform Jew. He met in my neck of the woods and he was respectful. However, like the last man, he did not seem to know how to keep things going. Also, during the date, I had to be the one to initiate conversation. Once I got him talking, he told me a lot and I liked him, but I had to keep thinking of things to talk about or he would just keep quiet. He did not seem like he was going to put any effort into a relationship. This time, I did something a little different. I emailed him after the date, to tell him I had a good time and that I hoped he would call. I did not get an email back, but I told him not to write back just to reject me and to only write back if he was interested. I guess he wasn’t. Now I am on Christianmingle. I was born Christian, but I don’t specifically consider myself Jewish, however I am I guess what you could say culturally Christian but not practicing (jdate has an option of that for culturally JEwish) but I put Catholic and wrote that I don’t go to church or worship. I am sure not all the men on there are that religious. I hardly get any emails on there. Men view my profile and do not respond. Furthermore, many of my matches are just too far away. Christianmingle wasn’t my favorate to begin with, because really religous Christians are a whole other ballgame, but I figured I could try anything and I only did it for a month. I tried match, but it was just like the other sites, nobody seemed to have a clue how to date. The free sites are all men that want hookups. I tried other means for dating, social groups meeting through friends, but it is not that easy. Prior to a few years ago, I never really had to date before. I was always lucky enough to get into a relationship through friends. I wouldn’t say I never dated. I did try online dating years ago, but did not really meet many men and met a man another way shortly after, through mutual friends. Then, the next man I met the same way. Between those two men I felt hopeless as there was a bit of a gap and a small social circle of men, but I was able to find somebody, so I hope I will again. It has never taken me this long to find a relationship. Last year, I was in a relationship with a man I met from plentyoffish, and her turned out to be a jerk, which is why I say what I said about the free sites, and for a few other reasons, one being many of the men have actually asked to hook up immediately.
Posted 01 Mar 2012 at 6:32 pm ¶

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