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Matched with a co-worker!

One of my matches is employed at my company,  in another department.  I’ve barely even met him, and our paths never  cross at work (but might in the future, depending on my assignment).  Except today he happened to be in my area, and  started some small talk…  So then tonight, when I was looking online at my existing eharmony matches,  I recognized him!     I don’t want to risk dating a co-worker, and I don’t want any drama at work.  What’s the most diplomatic way to deal with this?

Say something in real life?

Fast track on eharmony to say something there?

Close the match on eharmony (but for which pre-written reason?!)  and say nothing in real life?

Ignore the situation both in real life and online?

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  1. SingleGuyInNC wrote:

    Answer depends on if you are interested…

    If not:
    I had a similar thing happen (matched with someone within my organization). We had an informal conversation unrelated to dating (I knew she was single from another site and before we were matched on eH, which was why I had the conversation, to see what she was like in real life versus the profile). I wasn’t as interested once we met/talked. When we were matched on eH, she closed me, although dating wouldn’t have been a problem in my organization.

    So, if you aren’t interested, then just close them. End of story.

    If you are interested, that is where it gets more complicated but it sounds like you don’t care about pursuing it and want to avoid complication.

    Personally, I don’t see the big deal is about inter-office dating. How ARE folks supposed to meet? It used to not be so political and complicated.

    If everyone treats others with respect and acts like an adult it shouldn’t be an issue but that may be asking too much of the majority of people.

    Posted 04 Feb 2009 at 9:13 am
  2. Naomi D wrote:

    Because you are not interested, I suggest you close the match with “I don’t feel any chemistry”. I believe this is diplomatic because you already know him.

    Posted 06 Feb 2009 at 12:18 pm

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