I did the match estimator worksheet many moons ago but I wanted to see some real perspective on this matter. I came up with an easy experiment to conduct and you can repeat it for yourself to see if where you live is “holding you back”.
- You need an account on another dating service, OkCupid (it’s free), PlentyOfFish, Match.com, etc. that will indicate how many matches it finds for a given search, since eHarmony isn’t conducive to this but the results should translate
- Set (very) basic criteria for your ideal match in the search fields for your locality and get a baseline
- Substitute in various cities with the same search criteria
So, with the exact same criteria but only changing cities (the search I ran was of those living a 25 mile radius from the specified city):
- Miami, FL = 240
- Pittsburgh, PA = 320
- Atlanta, GA = 470
- Washington, DC = 900
- Chicago, IL = 1100
- San Francisco, CA = 1200
- Los Angeles, CA = 1400
- New York, NY = 2500
Conclusions:
- Seeing the scale/difference of a larger population center, it makes sense why I almost always got closed out by those living near them. There are plenty of matches much closer to them and they don’t see the point in a long-distance relationship.
- Based on this, it really seems as if eHarmony’s selling point of try and cast a wide net just won’t work well, because at the core, people prefer convenience and trying to start a long-distance relationship is going to be doomed for most, except the lucky few but who knows…maybe you’ll be one of the lucky few.

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