This question is the first About Me question for a reason: It’s the most important. A person’s passion (drive) is his reason to get out of bed every morning and, to a large extent, permeates his every decision throughout the day.
As a veteran eHarmony subscriber (and yeah since the answer appears first in the About Me profile), I consider the “passion” answer the ultimate deal-breaker. (In a previous post I wrote how it drew me to Match #52.) Your passion statement is eH’s equivalent to the introductory paragraph in other dating sites. It’s your frontispiece.
For this reason I strongly recommend you write a vivid and emotional response to this question. We all love someone with a passion for at least something. Someone without a passion is, well, as dull as a plastered wall: The first date will be agonizing!
If three things get you out of bed every morning, list them all. How does your passion translate to action? Use this question to differentiate your unique self to the hundreds of matches he receives. Be a creature like no other. Strike a chord. Be a nail on her shoe.
The second reason to develop a good reply to this question is because it reappears several times in various canned questions:
- 13. What best describes your attitude toward work?
- 54. Are you a passionate person?
- 2. Looking back on your life, of what are you most proud?
- 3. Describe some personal habits that are important to you.
- 4. Describe an interest you have that you would truly hope your partner could share with you.
- 5. What is the one dream for your life you most look forward to having come true?
- 7. If you had three wishes, what would they be?
- 16. If you could accomplish only one thing during the rest of your life, what would it be?
- 20. Tonight you can do anything you want, no penalties, no reprisals, and the cost is unimportant. What are you going to do?
- 34. Are you doing what you love? If not, what would you rather be doing?
- 41. If they were making a movie about your life, what would it be called and which actor would play you?
Here are ten canned questions that you can all answer easily by rephrasing what you are passionate about. In my opinion, for some of these, I will seriously doubt a person’s profile if the answer is inconsistent with the person’s “passion” answer. To me, passion is the key.
If I answer everything with the same answer as my passion, won’t I sound boring?
- We all love people with confidence and who know what they want. Your passion for your passion will draw in only the right people – don’t worry!
- If three things get you out of bed every morning, list them all. For example, you enjoy researching nutrition and recipes to design simple yet nutrient-rich meals for feeding the homeless. Is that boring?
- I haven’t met ANYONE with only one passion. There’s more to you than one.
Passion = Drive. Translate it to action — please!
One last thing: Many of my matches are passionate about Jesus, growing a relationship with the Lord, and sharing God’s love to others. I’m already used to receiving at least one Jesus-lover match every morning. Remember, unique passion = interesting, same old thing = boring.
This is just me — I find “sharing God’s love to others by striving to be a friend to those in need” too vague and indefinite. I still have to ask them, “Your passion – What gets you out of bed every morning?” I doubt anyone wakes up and says, “Wow what a great day. Hmm, I gotta look for someone who needs a friend today. Hmm, Tessa might be one. Let me phone her and show her Jesus loves her.” 
(P.S.: See also our related article: The Marriage Test for other questions that determine deep compatibility and honest discussion.)
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