Are matches closing you out saying “I don’t feel that the chemistry is there”? Isn’t it frustrating? Have you had enough? Do you want to learn Chemistry 101? Read on, dear friend.
A large advantage of using eHarmony is that you may have a vivid idea of a person’s personality just by reading answers to the 12 About Me questions. Unlike people in other dating sites and people in blind dates, ideal eH first dates are merely reconfirmations of what both already know. A well-written profile and a well-planned Guided Communication show much insight in the other person.
Now we know what we have to do: Simply use keywords found in the profile when answering back. The best way is to print the profile and mark commonalities and similar values with a highlighter.
If she likes staying in, and you don’t mind it either way, then say you like staying in. If he has a passion for Greek food, be sure to mention “souvlaki” in one of your replies, as long as you don’t hate this Greek dish.
Remember, this Guided Communication contraption lets you put your greatest foot forward at your own pace. Be a good “date” and seek first to find and discuss common interests instead of being determined to screen potential partners. Do you think someone will say “No”, to the question “Are you always on time?”
Bill Carruth said,
The secret of being interesting is to be interested.
Ask questions the person will enjoy answering. Generic questions are dull, dull, dull! Encourage people to talk about themselves. This quote is something to think about before we reply to our matches tonight.