eHarmony Blog.comI am curious as to what would happen if I were to post a variation of my e-mail address in the ‘About Me’ section of my eHarmony profile. I was thinking of using the following format: myusername at Google
Any input and/or suggestions would be much appreciated!
About eHarmony Blog 1 second ago
What are the eHarmony fonts? 24 seconds ago
“They say life is about simple pleasures, what is your simplest pleasure, and how does it make you feel?” 27 seconds ago
Feature request: Australia Toll Free number 37 seconds ago
Complete list of canned 1st questions in eHarmony 1 minute, 8 seconds agoHi Andie,
If you search eHB, you will find that posting an e-mail address (among other things, like even hinting at your subscriber status) or variation of it can result in your account being suspended, if eH CSRs find it. Doing this seems to be deemed a big no-no for non-subscribers by eH. Some here have reported posting this “violations” and not having their account suspended but you should be prepared for those consequences.
I doubt that they would even allow a subscriber to decide to disclose this “protected information” because it takes away from potential revenue of non-subscribers communicating with you without having to pay for a subscription.
Basically, expect to be held to whatever they say in the terms of service/user agreement.
SingleGuyInNC,
Thank you for the response! I almost let my curiousity was get the best of me. Do you know at what point in the communication stage one could share an e-mail address? I am by no means impatient, just curious so I can know what to expect. Realizing that eH is a business first and foremost, one can argue that all the “steps” are simply a method of prolonging what could be a simple process.
Andie,
“In theory”, you could slip it in as a custom reply to first questions but that would be REALLY tacky by most people’s standards. FCW veterans might say that slipping it in during 2nd questions is about as early as you can go without appearing foolish. If it isn’t a FCW, I just wait until OC to exchange e-mails, it is usually a safe assumption that your match is a subscriber, will remain one and will follow through to OC. Once you are in OC, any time that you feel comfortable doing so is fair game.
e-mail makes sense for long conversation, given the time-outs and other technical glitches you can encounter with using OC to communicate. Working on your reply in a word processor is a good alternative and pasting your reply when you are ready to send it.
On that note, you probably should use a “safe” e-mail address, one that doesn’t have your full name as a username and initially, in the “text field” of the e-mail client. Basically, you probably don’t want a match to use it to be able to identify you (i.e. definitely not an e-mail that may be indexed by Google and reveal your full name, where you work and it’s not too far of a leap from there to find tax records and where you live).
If you don’t like “the steps” you can always use FastTrack and make it your preferred method of communication but skipping the steps, you lose your perspective on the process and filtering out matches that you aren’t compatible with. Going straight to e-mail, you can often develop a rapport and feel like you are compatible but may not be when you look at the rather unsteady foundation you are building your relationship upon. If you haven’t, read NCW’s books and you’ll understand some more. If you understand the underlying principles of eH, you can go straight to e-mail and still gain from the relationship building research that eH is built upon.
Really, it all depends on your unique situation.
I am very curious about this email question, because when I checked out my competion(posed as a male) I found one woman had put her email in “what else would you like people to know about you”
I went back and put my email address in the same question and it was removed the same day, I checked back with hers and it is still there, it was a Canadian address, does that have anything to do with it, why can one do it and not another.? Hope to hear back, tks, Margaret.
Margaret, the .ca domain may helped it escape automatic detection. eHarmony staffers are known to go around reviewing modified profiles so it is just a matter of time.
It’s very interesting that you made a reconnaisance male profile to check out your competition. Care to write a topic about your experience?
I posted my email address on eharmony- and met my husband that way! Neither one of us ever joined. We are happily married for 3.5 years!
(Photo credit) 
Do you like this article? Post a comment on Facebook