From mono no aware: “Phase”

In his blog mono no aware last Thursday (10 August), enochroot wrote:

One of the difficulties with open communication on eHarmony, whether it is through their message center or via email, is the lack of context around a slow down in messages. One minute you are flying high, excited about new messages and connecting with this woman, and the next you are a ball of fear, wondering what it was you said to put her off.

I know in my head life intrudes, work, commitments, stuff. And I realize from their perspective there are times when I appear to drop off the face of the earth. I can imagine they must be feeling the same out-of-phase feeling I am.

It isn’t perfect, but it is far better than being alone with no conversations at all.

enochroot, this is exactly what I’m trying hard to cope with today. This lack of context is so debilitating, part of me wants to go on a vacation away from eHarmony.

I look at this differently. It is our penalty for joining a service where everyone is fed matches continuously. All of us have realised to expect there’s a better Tom, Dick and Harry matched to us tomorrow.