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I made two major discoveries this week:

1. A percentage of matches just stop replying. I have a person I had exchanged three emails per day over the course of three days, then this person simply stopped replying. I got two matches that stopped dead after I gave them 2nd questions after answering mine. I got three matches that dropped the ball in “Waiting for match to start open communication.”

Dating is tough. Just like real life, people lose interest for most shallow reasons. My friend stopped dating guys because he wore green on a date, or he was too short, didn’t like Oprah, or his nose looked funny. Yeah, even in eHarmony, people are normal and shallow.

I’m undecided whether to close them.

In the darkness that is called Guided/Open Communication, where there are no common friends to ask around, “Is Janet still alive?”, I realise that replies are golden and must be appreciated.

2. This mode of meeting people is not for everybody. Many call the first two months of a budding relationship the “getting-to-know-you” stage. This stage of an eHarmony-based relationship is in many ways different from offline and other online dating:

• Promiscuity is expected
• And not only that — Your match is presumably seeing people as intelligent as you, as adventurous as you, as communicative as you, as affectionate as you, as committed to marriage as you, and so forth.
• If not right now, maybe tomorrow, your match will receive a match who lives closer, or of closer age. You have to be confident enough to handle the competition.
• Frivolousness doesn’t transmit well in electronic communications. It’s hard to be funny.
• There’s no facial expression, body language or vocal intonation to read. It’s easy to beguile with sweet words.

Oy, I’m back on the saddle again. Broken hopes here they come.

My stats today:

Speaking and dating – 3 matches
OPEN – 7 matches
“Waiting for match to start open communication” – 4 matches
“Send Answers to 2nd Questions” – 5 matches
“Waiting for match�s answers to 2nd questions” – 4 matches
“Send 2nd Questions” – 1 match
�Waiting for match�s Must Haves/Can�t Stands� – 0 matches
“Reading your answers to 1st questions” – 6 matches
�Waiting for match�s answers to 1st questions� – 84 matches
CLOSED after Must Haves & Can’t Stands – 4 matches
CLOSED after 1st questions – 39 matches
Total – 158 matches
# of days – 33
Average matches per day – 4.78 (up from 4.65)
Average cost per OPEN = $1.64 (same as last review)
Average cost per match = $0.104 (up from 0.107)